> > But I think it was more the railroading, the getting sidetracked by
> > comments from men. I think that is a problem of female acculturation that
> > I really hadn't even noticed before.
>
> I have. We /defer/. We're usually unconscious of this deference - but it
> happens in all walks of life (at least in Australia). As soon as a guy
> opens his mouth, we tend to defer our conversation and modify it to be
> more interesting to him.
>
> Certain classes of men are aware of this and work to avoid it - and we
> have a good selection of men who do that on this list. (THANK YOU!!)
We do our best. :)
Actually, thinking about this (and these observations are pre-coffee, mind you),
my impressions are a bit different. Most guys (and a few women) I know have a
tendency to do this, but not because they expect the rest of the conversants to
defer. These kinds of people seem to view discussion as sort of a
King-Of-The-Hill situation, where they make a grab for power (or whatever) by
moving the focal point of the discussion to them, and the longer they keep it
there, the more points they get.
Aaargh. It sounded better in my head, I can't elaborate on ideas this early. :)
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