>>* He doesn't actually look at a female face when casually meeting,
>>lest he make her uncomfortable/be seen as 'looking' or challenging
>>her or whatever. And to sit next to a female in a tram or bus means
>>carefully looking in any other direction...
>
>I had to learn not to do this. I used to be a big eye-contact person
>but I discovered around college that it scared people off so I learned
>not to make eye contact. I suppose I should unlearn that now that I'm
>not trying to pass for a guy anymore. (Is it ok for women to make eye
>contact with strangers?)
Eye contact is a funny thing. Since a friend of mine pointed out that I
often tend to glance at other things as I talk, I've started paying
attention to it and I've learned that certain people really do get very
nervous when you make significant eye contact with them, wheras others will
notice but it doesn't seem to phase them too much (until you say something
to make them more conscious of it). I wonder if it has more to do with the
lookee than the looker... and thus, there really is no "right way" to do
things.
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