Simon Britnell wrote:
> As for the rest of your comments, you made my day. Good to meet another
> survivor. Here are a couple of things that helped me:
> 2) Talk to ambulance people about failed suicides. The percentage of
> suicide attempts that make a mistake and end up maiming themselves
> instead is suprising. I don't fear death. Disability is another
> matter.
One of the things that keeps me alive is the fear of disabling myself
and making my situation worse. It can really work.
I also keep the 'Razors pain you' poem in my head. And yes, I know
the author and the name but both escape me right now.
> Srl wrote:
> > and it's fine if they want that, but i feel like too often
> > white-picket-fence is the normative ideal, and anyone who doesn't want
> it
> > (particularly females) takes a lot of shit.
>
> imho, the person who gives you the most sh*t is yourself. Cultural
> norms are insidious like that. Nobody gives me any crap about not
> wanting to settle down and raise a family except me. I still think it's
> "cultural conditioning" that's responsible, but I'm still the one
> dishing out the angst.
Completely agreed. I taught myself to stop seeing my family's adoration
of my niece as an indictment on my not providing one, and I enjoy
Ashleigh a lot more now. But I /still/ have trouble with people saying
'you're married? When are you having kids?'
Siiiigh.
> I'm not entirely sure how one goes about taking care of oneself
> emotionally. I introspect a lot, but it doesn't necessarily make me
> happy.
I'm trying counselling. I don't like it so far - it tends to leave me
worse than I was. I suspect that if I hadn't healed myself a lot
before I tried it, I'd be a danger to myself. (So far I've never been
a danger to others. Something I'm proud of. Car keys stay firmly in the
handbag, not in the hand, when I'm depressed.)
Jenn V.
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Humans are the only species to feed and house entirely separate species
for no reason other than the pleasure of their company. Why?
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