Ingrid Schupbach wrote:
>
> On Thu, 21 Oct 1999, Jernej Zajc wrote:
> >
> > What about changing your nick?
>
> Changing my nick is not an option. I am proud of who I am; I am proud to
> be a female linux user. If it's true that women get treated badly on
> occasion by male linux users, why is the correct solution that the women
> go underground? Why should we just accept the world as it is? When I
> walk by a construction site and some boorish worker makes a lewd remark,
> should I start disguising myself as a man? Or do I get to turn around,
> face him as myself and say, "f*ck you - you're a sexist ape." I'm not
> censoring, I'm reserving my right to fire back. I say it's ok to feel
> angry, I say it's ok to shout at the top of my lungs and rant all I want.
> That's my fair portion of free speech. So don't tell me to go hide and
> suck it up.
Firstly, I didn't suggest you change it into a male nick.
I for one have a neutral one.
But to the point.
If I give you some advice which is evidently able only to
cure the symptoms I don't expect to get strong-worded reply
about it not curing the cause. I thought that was clear.
I never said my suggestion was better than your way of
coping with problem. Judging from your response changing
nick is worse for you than having to listen to/read garbage
remarks so just ignore my suggestion and do it your way.
Also I didn't suggest it for other situations like
contruction sites etc. -- I'm not into selling universal
wisdom for all possible situations.
> I don't think that declaring sexist comments and actions as
> protected under "freedom of speech" makes them any less hurtful. Free
> speech gives me the right to tell the actors I don't like what they have
> to say.
Well go ahead. Noone is stopping you, even if with your
response you hurt the one you've been hurt by. This also
is freedom.
And BTW, if you don't let be hurt you cannot be. Admittedly
this is not easy but it is possible. This also is only a
suggestion, but you could try it before flaming me back
again for it not being an option for you.
Nejc
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