Deirdre Saoirse wrote:
>
> > Because it's incorrect, and traditionally the burden of 'desireability'
> > is on females.
> >
> > Not everyone tries to make themselves desirable to those they're
> > sexually interested in; at least, not consciously.
> 
> Some of us have made a deliberate point of being OUTSIDE as much of the
> norms as possible *because* we didn't like the sexist attention. Thus, I
> don't even think the statement that we optimize for attractiveness is
> true. (Unless, of course, you consider that I was deliberately trying to
> alienate the one group....)

hrm. that would depend on whether or not optimizing for
"unattractiveness"
counts. (i know of someone who apparently does this -- hi amanda!).
personally, it's rather pathetic that women even have to *bother* to do
this, but i know quite a few who deliberately "dress down" to avoid male
attention to varying degrees. i did it for a /long/ period during
adolescence, and i've finally gotten to the point where i just dress to
find /myself/ attractive -- not what will attract me
attention/sex/men/women, but stuff in which /i/ feel both attractive and
comfortable, up to and including muddy jeans. :)

anyone else have a similar philosophy? doubt that many female geeks are
the type to "present" for other people.

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Susannah D. Rosenberg   / [EMAIL PROTECTED]   / gravity.dyn.dhs.org


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