"Deidre L. Calarco" wrote:
>
> BTW, I've been with the same guy for eight years (we're not married, but we
> own a house together). He's even more technically oriented than I am. I
> think he would have a lot trouble relating to a woman who wasn't into
> computers, although he does have many other interests. We met in a computer
> engineering class - Data Structures II - and interestingly, I've backed off
> of programming partly because he was much more advanced at it than I was
> when we first met, and now he's better at it than I could ever be.
I'm married to Dancer. He's a programmer, and a geek, and /very/ geek.
Frighteningly intelligent, wraps his head around whatever's current in
physics for fun.
He considers me better at program design than he is. He pushes me to program
- and we both think I need to spend some time in deep hack mode soon. I've
been chronically ill for the last ten years or so (CFS/CFIDS/ME/whatever
you call it), and it's affected my ability to think. He's been keeping me
listening to him, making me /follow/ him - even though I haven't been able
to lead. Making sure I kept my mental muscles exercised as much as I could.
As for being better at it than you could ever be: so what? Even if it's true
(and it may or may not be) - I don't think it should matter. What matters is
whether you enjoy it, and - if you want to make a living from it - whether
you're good enough at it to do so.
Besides, if you want to not directly compete, specialise in different
aspects of programming.
Dancer's a much better implementer than I think I could be. But I'm the better
designer! Even with me rusty and him experienced!
(Unless he says it to keep my ego up)
Jenn V.
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Humans are the only species to feed and house entirely separate species
for no reason other than the pleasure of their company. Why?
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