On 2020-07-07 5:07 pm, Paolo Prete wrote:
I have to apologize for the tone I used.
What was wrong was the fact that my words sounded like absolute blaming
to
someone/something.
At the end of the day, all of us can benefit from learning to be more
aware of how our words may be perceived.
I cannot find the original source, but I had heard it said the one time
you can be certain someone is lying to you is when they begin by
assuring you they are not lying.
So one bit of advice I can offer is the moment you preface a comment
with a caveat, such as "I don't mean to sound <blank>, but...", stop
right there and reflect. More often than we probably care to admit,
such a disclaimer is an outright fabrication. I might say I do not mean
it but in reality I very much mean it and am looking for any cheap
excuse to get away with it.
It should be recognized there is value in writing out how you truly feel
providing you have the mental wherewithal to not to actually post it.
After venting pent-up frustrations, select that text and hit delete
knowing your mind is now in a better place. When you begin writing
again, it should hopefully be easier to communicate your thoughts in an
actionable and positive manner.
-- Aaron Hill
