Deirdre Saoirse wrote:
>
> On Fri, 7 Apr 2000, Susannah Rosenberg wrote:
>
> > i agree that geekiness is becoming attractive. however, it's
> > becoming attractive because of _money_.
> >
> > and in a lot of cases, while (hetero) women want a man who can support
> > and provide for them... men still want to be "the head of the
> > household".
>
> In a lot of cases, couples with a geek woman find that the woman is the
> primary breadwinner. Like mine.
yup. seen a lot of this as well. :)
however, i've also seen it become an issue, even in geek households with
strong relationships -- sometimes, the social conditioning is just hard
to break.
> > the economic attraction isn't as strong for men, because society still
> > expects them to provide, and looks down on them if they don't. so the
> > perception i've seen is that _male_ geeks are desirable, while female
> > geeks are often seen as... scary. <shrug> not female enough; in as much
> > as geekiness now equates to positive 'masculine' virtues, it's
> > respected. in as much as geekiness does _not_ equate to traditional
> > 'feminine' values, it's undervalued.
>
> I disagree. I know of no female geeks not in relationships (except for
> some of my gay female friends).
lucky friends. :)
i know quite a lot of geeks, male /and/ female, not in relationships,
but attached-males far outnumber attached females.
for what's it worth, the geek guys are a /lot/ more likely to have NON
geek girlfriends than the female geeks.
even counting the lesbian and bi-sexual girl geeks, i've noticed.
i'm convinced there's something in that, even if it's just that most
women i know seem more concerned with acceptance than the guys
(unfortunately).
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