Steve Kudlak wrote:
> This is a touchy issue, because if one woman said: "Don't do that", it might
> actually stop things. Or something like" Or it's not worth fight over...."
> Instead they back out of the way and let the guys duke it out.
Or /she/ might get hit. Have you thought about /why/ they (we) back out of the
way? Because we're at least as scared as the guys.
> Only difference I think is that it IS FAIR FOR ME TO ASK THEM TO ACCEPT MY
> CLOTHING. I may joke about "suits" but they are no less a human being. I only
> ask the same. To me it seems they are glorifying stupidity. But the convenient
> way is to remove myself from it and do to some place better. It is the never
> teach a pig to sing thing...
It is the never-teach-a-pig-to-sing thing.
Have you considered the possibility that they might be /afraid/ of you?
Afraid of the symbolism of your appearance, perhaps.
Afraid of your intellect, perhqps?
Afraid of the freedom-to-wear-what-you-wish?
These are all possible. You have mentioned that you dress as a biker - well,
I tend to be afraid of people who dress as bikers, because my experience is
that I am more likely to be (physically) hurt by a biker than I am to be hurt
by a suit.
I have been told by a friend that she was intimidated by my reputation as
an intellectual - she thought I'd be patronising, that we'd have nothing to
talk about, that the kind of thing that interests her would bore me silly.
Now, I don't /agree/ with that, but I have to accept that that viewpoint
exists.
And there's a LOT of people who really hate wearing ties and smart clothes.
Some of them envy people who can get away without it. So some of what you're
experiencing may be envy - not just prejudice.
Jenn V.
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Humans are the only species to feed and house entirely separate species
for no reason other than the pleasure of their company. Why?
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