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> I think one of the reasons housework came up is that women are still
> expected, by and large, to do the most of it.
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My housemate is male are we are both in similar fields (I do web dev, he
does techdesk), but I've always been a bit more successful than him.
Despite the fact that we do the same work, he seems to expect me to "do
the vaccuming and that" because he "hates that kind of thing", but the
few times he has attempted to clean the house never really gets clean. I
don't think his mother ever taught him how to dust, etc. Now I do do
most of the cleaning, mainly because I can only deal with a certain
level of messiness, and I figure since I'm not going to be living there
forever, no biggie. We haven't really scuffled about that. What I did
get snippy about was when he came home one night and was telling me
about his buddy's wife, who makes dinner, cleans the house, minds all
the bills, etc, while his buddy goes out (always w/o her) and spends the
dough. Roommie followed it up with "I want a wife just like that". I
just looked at him and said (rather tersely), "You are speaking to the
_wrong_ person about that". You know, I'm a very busy woman, I work more
hours than he does, plus I volunteer on the weekends, and dedicate a
minimum two evenings a week to my band, but I still find time to clean,
pay my bills, play with my pets, run errands and go out. I guess when
its all said and done, its not that my roommate is being too "macho" or
anything like that...he's just plain lazy and wants to be taken care of.
"my $.02"
Jacque
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