> -----Original Message----- > From: ffmpeg-devel <ffmpeg-devel-boun...@ffmpeg.org> On Behalf Of Michael > Niedermayer > Sent: Montag, 2. Juni 2025 21:35 > To: FFmpeg development discussions and patches <ffmpeg-devel@ffmpeg.org> > Subject: Re: [FFmpeg-devel] The "bad" Patch >
Hi, > The CC needs someone who is good at mediating (or what you call it) thats > marth64 +1 > And the CC needs someone who can recognize defamation and document it > accurately. Ive not seen anyone except softworkz document things as he did. Admittedly, the motivation was high, since I've been in focus. Naturally, I had been upset about specific persons at the beginning, but the more I had reconstructed the sequence of events, I realized that the way how things had developed and escalated further, was more complex and driven by many actors, most of which never had much bad intentions and acted without being aware about the consequences of their own actions. Asked about it, I'm sure most of them would think and say that they would have had nothing to do with it at all and it wasn't their own fault. But in a community, when several people do just little wrong individually, this can sum up very quickly and easily. The motivations behind documenting the events are multifold: - When we better understand the origins and mechanisms of how that "toxicity" is formed and unfolds, then we might better be able to take measures to reduce it in the future - When each individual is able to see and understand their own actions within the full context, it allows them to reflect about how their own actions (even if just minimal) have contributed to the eventual outcome - In the same way, people who weren't involved at all can learn from understanding those situations The latter applies to myself as well, I'm sometimes writing faster than thinking, which can lead to unintended consequences and there could very well be another case where I might have been documented as an actor. I don't consider myself standing out in this regard. One fundamental difference though - and something that is badly missing in this community is the ability to admit one's own mistakes and apologize as is appropriate. I always do that and the ML archive gives testimony that this is true. It's an indication of integrity, honesty and strength of personality and social competence. Failing to do so is one of the seeds of toxicity towards each other. To me, it seems that people are afraid that this could be taken as weakness or incompetence - which is a fundamental misconception. Even in technical discussions, I see that people rather stop responding than admitting, when they realize they were wrong about something. But the opposite is true: not admitting is weak behavior. > > Because it seems you seriously care about stoping defamations and the > > general sozial backstabbing that has appeared in the recent decade > > “Seems” is the important word here. I have been writing about these things here often before, in the hope that it makes people think about and reflect their own behavior. If it would be true that it just "seems" that I would care, then I'd be curious about for which other reasons I'd be doing it then? Best regards, softworkz _______________________________________________ ffmpeg-devel mailing list ffmpeg-devel@ffmpeg.org https://ffmpeg.org/mailman/listinfo/ffmpeg-devel To unsubscribe, visit link above, or email ffmpeg-devel-requ...@ffmpeg.org with subject "unsubscribe".
