well, i think the problem you had concerned has a connection to culture background. i am a chinese, so i know chinese and chinese culture well. in my place, we didn't have such a thing like one night stand in the past, most people only did sex after they got married. but finally, we opened the gate to the world, and these kinds of thoughts came into our daily life. however, these things are not popular among my firends, otherwise, these people, who are easily have sex with strangers, would be regarded as bad people. because our traditon is good youngs don't easily break the rules. so ur habit about love, the first stage is on mentally, and then the next stage is on sexually.
On Tue, Apr 14, 2009 at 4:42 PM, Piotrek_Luniewski <[email protected] > wrote: > > Now when I read what I wrote it seem stupid but well I'll try to > start :) > > I always expect trust in relationships, it's one of the most important > features of relationships. My friend told me sth really great but also > soooo true: When there no trust, there's no love. I totally agree with > that. Do you? > > What's more I also expect intimacy and ability to reach compromises. I > hate when in simple situations one part says: Choose me or sth else. > We seem to forget that being together is not only about having sex and > holding hands but also helping our other half to be a better person or > help with quiting bad abits or even fighting with addictions. Of > course with can't force them to do sth but sometimes when we just talk > seriously we can calmly show the other half that sth that they do is > not good for them but we should never say: Quit it, it's bad. Lots and > lots of talks and then it may work. If not, we can end our > relationship knowing that we did everything we could. > > I remember myself few years ago when I was not able to reach > compromises and I have to admit that was awful. I tried to start > reaching ones with little things like 'where should we go' and then > got to bigger and bigger things. Now I can proudly say that I've > changed and I am so happy because reaching compromises work not only > in relationships but also in everyday life and it's so much better > when you don't have to fight with someone but talk and find the best > way for both of us. > > Piotrek > > > --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "ESL Podcast". To post to this group, send email to: [email protected] or just reply this message For invite your friends, visit: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/members_invite Know how help us, visit this FAQ at: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/web/frequently-asked-questions -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
