On Mon, 25 Oct 1999, srl wrote:
> aha. i think you've hit on something. I kinda find it offensive for
> anyone to more-or-less openly seek someone to be hir
> maintainer-of-all-things-domestic-and-emotional. And, gender politics
> being what they are, it's most often men looking for this from women.
> THere are women who do the same, only in reverse.
I'll definetly agree it's more prevelent (largely because it was the
socially accepted 'norm' for years) amount heterosexual males.
> I think it's part of being a responsible adult to take care of your own
> life-- from doing the laundry to maintaining emotional well-being. It's
> fine to have some support in that. For me, it's *not* a goal to spend so
> much time geeking that i need someone else to write the rent checks and
> wash the dishes. IMO, any geek--- male, female, or otherwise--- who
> aspires to this almost deserves to be single. Who wants to date someone
> who spends so much time on projects that they have no time for an SO?
yeah, I pretty much agree. I certainly wouldn't *date* someone like
that. I don't find it too offensive, though...it's when it's presented as
the best or only way to be that it bothers me.
And an argument could be made for division of labor -- i.e. I do the
out-of-house stuff and you do the in house stuff or whatever..in other
words, not necessarily not enough time for an SO, but 'these are all the
things that need to be done. I'll do all of these if you'll do all of
these' -- being read into the artical..
<shrug>
This was my /. quote today, though..it's bad when you find yourself
wondering if a random database was trolling :)
> The duration of passion is proportionate with the original resistance of
> the woman. -- Honore DeBalzac
Vinnie
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