On Fri, 22 Oct 1999, Steve Kudlak wrote:
> And I can see all the points, of how it is nice not to be looked at by a
> single metric or measure "(s)he's cute..." Although I guess I am not hit
> on all that much seriously, so I tended to see someone's advances to me,
> in a positive or amusing light. So I never got too mad at "Crossed
> Preference Advance" but was more amused and glad someone was interested
> some how.
Right, but when it's a constant barrage, it's a completely different
story. And, as women, we are constantly reminded by men about how we do or
do not rate and why.
I'll never forget, for example, the time I was dating a guy who said I
should get breast implants. I'm a fscking D cup already. (And, if that
does something for you, I DO NOT WANT TO KNOW ABOUT IT)
> If it was "all the time" it would be a different thing. But anyway I
> drifted away from themes. That's what rattles me, it is not pictures,
> but mean nasty behavior, and being always told to "blow it off" or "deal
> with it".
>
> The guy side of this, is that as a guy one is supposed to just put up
> with high levels of creulty and meanness. It is that, and not the bright
> chrome like guy world of chromed auto parts etc. that sets me off.
I can understand that.
I think men and women deal with equal quantities of cruelty, but the form
is sufficiently different that the types of reactions and acculturations
are therefore different.
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