With his permission, the story I posted earlier is og Rajib D Mukherjee:
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1563167520
Best to him and u all,
Aditya B
On 23 March 2012 16:58, Aditya Bondyopadhyay <adit.b...@gmail.com> wrote:
> Hi all,
> Cutting and pasting below a coming out story that I came across on a
> community group in facebook. I am not identifying the person, but if he is
> on the list, I request him to identify himself if he is so willing. Else if
> he tells me to, I shall identify him in a subsequent mail.
>
> The reason for doing this is because this guy did the right thing in not
> only coming out, but reasoning out with his mom that he did not want to get
> married. I salute him for his courage and ethical stand.
>
> _ Aditya B
>
> ++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
> Finally did it.... there is nothing in this world that is impossible..
> just a little courage and push from within to do the things just when you
> want them can get you where you want to be...so, this is how the
> conversation started :
>
> Me: mom, I have something to tell you..
>
> Mom: (out of curiosity) what is it ?
>
> Me: Mom, I do not want you to talk about me getting married to a girl to
> anyone.
>
> Mom: (with a weird look) why ?
>
> Me: mom, I am not attracted to girls and I like boys..
>
> Mom: my heart called for this a few weeks ago and was expecting this to
> come from you! So this is the way you want to destroy your life ??
>
> Me: this will not destroy my life but getting married to a girl will and
> not only my life, but the girl's life as well and if you want to get me
> married forcefully, then that will end up nowhere but a depressed life and
> divorce..
>
> Mom: if that is the case, then you don't have to get married ever..if you
> cannot marry a "nari" then you cannot marry a "purush"- period. that's
> it.!! live alone..
>
> Me: but I am not A-Sexual, I like boys and want to get married to a guy -
> (qouted her example from a previous conversation - "u need to marry & have
> kids, so that there is someone to look after you when you are old.)
>
> Mom: it cannot happen, how will two guys look after each other, both will
> be old ?
>
> Me: we can always adopt! :)
>
> Mom: (with anger) - no this will simply not happen. you have to marry a
> girl else no marriage for you!!
>
> Me: not possible! if i fall in love with a boy, i would want to live and
> raise a family with him in the long run..
>
> Mom: (emotionally) i was born alone, lived my life alone, your father died
> at an early age, you were the only hope and now you are also doing these
> stuffs..i have no happiness ('sukh' - is the term she used)...
>
> Me: I am there for you and I need you to be there for me - you are my
> strength and if you reject me, then I would have nowhere to go...
>
> Mom: I am not leaving you, but just wished you had a better life. So who
> is this guy who calls you all the time..
>
> Me: he is my frnd and he likes talking to me. :)
>
> Mom: what's his name ? what does he do ? where does he live ? did he ask
> you to speak to me about all this ?
>
> Me: his name is *********, he is ****** by profession...he already has a
> bf and he did not ask me to talk to you about this..i was trying to talk to
> you about this for the last few weeks, but could not as i was afraid...
>
> Mom: afraid of what ? why didn't u tell me when I was trying to get you
> married last year - why sudden change now?
>
> Me: I did not change, was just scared to tell you and was afraid I will
> loose you :(
>
> Mom: (with proud) I am a strong woman. I did everything on my own and
> raised you after your Dad. why would you loose me?
>
> Me: I know your anger and thought you would kill me or yourself after you
> get to know about it..
>
> Mom: Never, why would i kill the one i gave birth to and why the hell
> would i kill myself..i'll die naturally and on god's will....
>
> Me: I love you Mom and thank you so much for accepting me for who I am!
>
> Mom: Who said I accepted you ?? I would still want you to get married to a
> girl..
>
> Me: again the same thing mom ? I cannot...there has been many instances of
> people getting married due to the pressure from their parents and society
> and ended nowhere...
>
> Mom: ok, i wish you a happy life and do whatever you want to...
>
> and then i explained her many things about being queer and also mentioned
> Wajood - explained her the meaning of Wajood - now she is sleeping right
> beside me as she's been for the last few months and talking normally... I
> hope she will come around in the long run...
>
> Thank you so much guys for all your wishes and support and love....
> +++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
>
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> ADITYA BONDYOPADHYAY
> Development Sector Consultant
> Advocate (Regd. No. F-218/192 of 1997, Bar Council of W.Bengal, India)
>
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