or a cat! On Wed, Sep 24, 2014 at 11:52 AM, Rick Brass via CnC-List < cnc-list@cnc-list.com> wrote:
> Chuck, > > It sounds like you really need to own two boats. A trawler around 36 - 42 > feet for trips with the wife, and a C&C 25, 27, or 30 that you and your son > can race relatively I expensively and also daysail when the wife isn't > along. > > Take heart. It has been said that all of us will end up in a trawler as we > get into our 70s (and in a land yacht after that), so you would just be > getting ahead of the curve. > > Rick Brass > > Sent from my iPad > > On Sep 23, 2014, at 22:44, Chuck S via CnC-List <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> > wrote: > > Thanks for the suggestions. All good, but not for my girl. > Hiring a coach or taking a course won't change the fact that she doesn't > like that sailboats lean when powered up. She's just not interested in a > sailing course or coaching or changing. We're 60 and been together 30+ > years. We've had this boat for 12 years and she likes harbor cruises under > power or anchoring overnight, or all the social stuff at the dock or > rafting up. My daughter is the same. My son however is like me and took > to sailing right off. He joined his college's sailing team and loves > racing with me. I've raced the boat without my wife or daughter and won > regattas with 1st time ever crew, so I assure you I am fairly competent. I > can calmly explain which line to put to what winch and which way to turn it > and never raise my voice except to be heard. I've put newbies on the wheel > and coached them to steer and they loved steering. I've also taken guests > who just wanted a ride, didn't want to do anything and I just set the > autohelm and do it all like I do when I'm alone. My wife likes that style > until it gets above 10 knots when the boat comes alive and we start making > 6 plus knots and heel to 25 degrees cause the apparent becomes 16 and then > we're doing 7.3 knots and lovin it, until she's almost crying something > like, "do you have to make it lean so much? Let's find a place to go > swimming." > > She's missing the sailing gene, but I can't change her and she has no > desire to take a course or let me hire a coach. I guess I'll run our boat > like a trawler when she's aboard, and save the sailing for when she's not > there. I'm gonna order that tow toy. > > Chuck > Resolute > 1990 C&C 34R > Broad Creek, Magothy River, Md > > ------------------------------ > *From: *"CNC boat owners, cnc-list" <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> > *To: *"Gary Nylander" <gnylan...@atlanticbb.net>, "CNC boat owners, > cnc-list" <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> > *Sent: *Tuesday, September 23, 2014 7:44:09 PM > *Subject: *Re: Stus-List Wife dosen't like it when the boat leans > > Ok, here's a response from a woman..... > > I married into sailing. Started with a small boat, took trips to New > England and the Caribbean on charters in significantly larger boats (where > my love for C&C began). I learned to love the lifestyle and a bit of racing > but what really shifted my thinking was crewing on someone else's boat. > > Consider this, expectations are high and so is pressure when sailing with > a spouse. When sailing on another accomplished skippers boat as added crew, > you see how the experienced crew handles everything and before you know it > you relax, a few years have passed, and your right there with them, loving > every second..... > > I wouldn't expect every wife to catch the bug I did, but they might > certainly see sailing from a different perspective and enjoy it more with a > higher level of confidence. > > I know on Lake Lanier and other bodies of water there are some very > patient and good skippers that would welcome a learning spouse. I'd be > happy to help as well... > > Joanne Mocny > S/V Obsession > C&C 37/40+ > > Sent from my iPad > > On Sep 23, 2014, at 4:59 PM, Gary Nylander via CnC-List < > cnc-list@cnc-list.com> wrote: > > Try Womanship - they have a school in Annapolis, but hold classes in the > Caribbean. > > A friend went - loved it. > > Gary > > ----- Original Message ----- > *From:* Tim Goodyear via CnC-List <cnc-list@cnc-list.com> > *To:* Dennis C. <capt...@gmail.com> ; cnc-list@cnc-list.com > *Cc:* Jean-Francois J Rivard <jfriv...@us.ibm.com> > *Sent:* Tuesday, September 23, 2014 4:46 PM > *Subject:* Re: Stus-List Wife dosen't like it when the boat leans > > Dennis / others, > > Do you have any recommendations for such a course, preferably somewhere > warm and with some considerable learning opportunities (moving from very > competent crew to command / self-sufficiency, not basics)? Bev / other > female listers, I'd be interested in your opinions too. > > Thanks, > > Tim > > On Sep 22, 2014, at 5:31 PM, "Dennis C. via CnC-List" < > cnc-list@cnc-list.com> wrote: > > Don't just send your lady to sailing lessons. Send her to a week long > ladies only sailing class. It's a LOT different than taking lessons with a > coed group. She will not just get sailing lessons, she will get emotional > support, counselling, share experiences with other women, etc. Chances are > it will be a much more positive experience for her. > > I've had a couple lady friends do it and they absolutely swear it's the > only way to learn sailing. > > Dennis C. > Touche' 35-1 #83 > Mandeville, LA > > On Mon, Sep 22, 2014 at 4:03 PM, Jean-Francois J Rivard via CnC-List < > cnc-list@cnc-list.com> wrote: > >> I'll let you guys know how the lessons help.. >> >> Racing did not help, she clammed-up even worse for fear that she'd screw >> something up. Even if on that particular race, everything that could be >> screwed-up was already taken care of so no one really cared. No amount of >> screwing-up was going to make our last place any worse. :-) >> >> Giving her the helm.. Been there done that, same result. >> >> Talking to other wifes.. It depends, At the club parties it runs the >> gammut from enthusiastic sailor ladies to killjoys that never come out >> sailing, just show up for parties.. When she runs into the lather all they >> say is too hot, too cold, too windy, too sunny, too humid, etc, etc. then >> I'm loosing ground. >> >> I'm banking on the lessons.. Truth to be told, if you're that much not >> into the boating thing, just sitting around on a boat is not much more fun >> than sitting around anywhere else.. Especially given the fact that on the >> lake, when it's (Really) windy, it's usually not very sunny, often a bit >> coldish, so you have to look at the big picture to appreciate what's going >> on. >> >> On the plus she's fairly athletic so maybe once she told what's what by >> someone else and understands better what's going on she'll get into the >> workout / physical side of it and get a little rush that way... >> >> I guess that's typical boat stuff: one more thing to figure out... >> >> -Francois >> 1990 34+ "Take Five" >> Lake Lanier, Georgia. >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> >> _______________________________________________ >> This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album >> >> Email address: >> CnC-List@cnc-list.com >> To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of >> page at: >> http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com >> >> >> > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > CnC-List@cnc-list.com > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > > ------------------------------ > > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > CnC-List@cnc-list.com > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > CnC-List@cnc-list.com > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > CnC-List@cnc-list.com > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > CnC-List@cnc-list.com > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > > _______________________________________________ > This List is provided by the C&C Photo Album > > Email address: > CnC-List@cnc-list.com > To change your list preferences, including unsubscribing -- go bottom of > page at: > http://cnc-list.com/mailman/listinfo/cnc-list_cnc-list.com > > > -- Joel 301 541 8551
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