On 11/07/2010, at 11:40 PM, Ronn! Blankenship wrote: > > I had in mind more the conditions that lead to the need for such neologisms > as "baby daddy" or other terms to indicate a parent who is little if at all > involved in the lives of either the child or the "baby mama(s)" he > impregnated. > > IOW, it takes a lot more than biology to be a "Dad" (which has been the point > made by some others in this thread also. Indeed biology is not always even > necessary: a couple who want a child enough to adopt one may be every bit as > good parents as a couple who have their own wanted and loved biological child > to whose well-being they are committed.)
I have never met my "biological parents". I know nothing about them (other than their genes were clearly awesome ;-) ) > > > >> Dave >> >> Heather Has Two Mommies Maru > > > > There was a recent (announced this year, at least) study that seems to show > that if Heather was born to two mommies who were already in a committed > relationship when one of them became pregnant via donor she is probably as > well-adjusted, etc., as Tiffany who comes from an intact two-parent (one of > each sex) family. Of course I'm not the only person whose immediate > conclusion was that the extra time, trouble, and expense involved in the > conception via donor indicates that Heather's two mommies clearly planned for > and wanted her. So the best thing for the kids is clearly to have their > parents in the same house and committed to each other (in the words of the > old the nursery rhyme, "First comes love, then comes marriage, *then* comes a > baby in a baby carriage.") and the kids rather than living on opposite ends > of town or even in different cities or states and keeping the kids almost > constantly on the run back and forth between them, even if they don't engage > in the additional reportedly-all-too-common practice of each trying to > influence the kids against the other. Yep, pretty much what I was saying a few posts ago. Parenting is about commitment, responsibility, love, and not a little bit of luck too. Single parents can do it too (and people seem too forget that single parents are just as often bereaved as unmarried, so there's no choice for a lot of them), but it's a lot harder to do well on one's own. Charlie. _______________________________________________ http://box535.bluehost.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l_mccmedia.com
