At 03:21 PM Friday 7/9/2010, Dave Land wrote:
On Jul 9, 2010, at 12:49 PM, Ronn! Blankenship wrote:
At 02:02 PM Friday 7/9/2010, Dan Minette wrote:
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From: brin-l-boun...@mccmedia.com [mailto:brin-l- boun...@mccmedia.com] On
Behalf Of Jo Anne
Sent: Friday, July 09, 2010 1:49 PM
To: Killer Bs (David Brin et al) Discussion
Subject: Having Dads makes you Happy
Dave Wrote
> Maybe we should retitle this thread "Having dads makes you happy"?
<Throat clearing noises> I know this list is androcentric, but,
come on!
...and having Moms makes you (fill in the blank)?
How about "Having dads and moms in the same house and married to
each other"?
And if the parents are "Adam and Steve" instead of "Adam and Eve"?
If that had been what I was commenting on, presumably I would have
changed the plural in the Subject line to singular. ;)
I had in mind more the conditions that lead to the need for such
neologisms as "baby daddy" or other terms to indicate a parent who is
little if at all involved in the lives of either the child or the
"baby mama(s)" he impregnated.
IOW, it takes a lot more than biology to be a "Dad" (which has been
the point made by some others in this thread also. Indeed biology is
not always even necessary: a couple who want a child enough to adopt
one may be every bit as good parents as a couple who have their own
wanted and loved biological child to whose well-being they are committed.)
Dave
Heather Has Two Mommies Maru
There was a recent (announced this year, at least) study that seems
to show that if Heather was born to two mommies who were already in a
committed relationship when one of them became pregnant via donor she
is probably as well-adjusted, etc., as Tiffany who comes from an
intact two-parent (one of each sex) family. Of course I'm not the
only person whose immediate conclusion was that the extra time,
trouble, and expense involved in the conception via donor indicates
that Heather's two mommies clearly planned for and wanted her. So
the best thing for the kids is clearly to have their parents in the
same house and committed to each other (in the words of the old the
nursery rhyme, "First comes love, then comes marriage, *then* comes a
baby in a baby carriage.") and the kids rather than living on
opposite ends of town or even in different cities or states and
keeping the kids almost constantly on the run back and forth between
them, even if they don't engage in the additional
reportedly-all-too-common practice of each trying to influence the
kids against the other.
. . . ronn! :)
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