On Tuesday 10 Mar 2009 6:44:43 pm Mahesh Murthy wrote: > <snip> > > > Be that as it may, the divorce rates in the West are not necessarily high > > merely because of infidelity are they? > > It is certainly the most frequently-quoted cause.
Naturally. It is the one most likely to get you a divorce. > > > The other point is that fidelity is indeed demanded in Hindu marriages - > > from > > the woman. > > Can you quote me relevant scripture on this please - and not Manu smriti? > Thanks. You asking me for scriptures? As in "It has been written??". I have never read Manu Smriti and have no intention of doing so in the foreseeable future. I am referring to the act of looking for the star Arundhati - the symbolism being that the bride must be like Arundathi. The groom seems to have no similar demand placed on him as far as I know. If that comes from Manu smriti - you will have to educate me, assuming you are yourself familar with the work. > > I think that for India: > > 1) The institution of marriage must be protected but not if it is clearly > > harmful to man or woman > > 2) The woman must be protected against cruelty, forced marriage and > > bondage 3) Fidelity must be expected of the man as well as the woman > > 1. Why? > 2. Why just the woman? > 3. Why? I think the institution of marriage is important subject to the conditions I have stated. Please take it as my opinion. If you differ I would like to hear your view. In India the woman certainly needs protection more than the man. I hope you don't think that I implied that the man must not be protected. My not saying something does not mean I endorse or do not endorse what I have not said. Fidelity must be expected from the man as well as the woman. Are you asking why I hold this opinion? I will answer that if you confirm that you are not trolling. > > > The future IMO will mean not copying the West. But things must not remain > > the > > same either. > > This seems somewhat out of line with your earlier 3 tenets. Be that as it > may, change is happening, pink chaddis and all. I'm not worried on that > count. How is it out of line? Please explain. shiv
