If packets for port 465 arrive on eth0 and nothing is sent in response then we know the following:
1) Your system replies to ARP requests. So there is two-way communication at the ethetnet layer. 2) Your system does not respond to TCP SYN requests. There is no two-way communication at the TCP layer. This suggests the TCP SYN is dropped (firewall problem), or that your system responds to TCP SYN on a different network interface (routing problem). It there any TCP connectivity between the client and the Postfix server on that specific IP address? Wietse