-------- Original Message -------- > From: "David Arno" <da...@davidarno.org> > > I suspect that asking him to leave is as unhelpful to the group as the > original rudeness. The gentle way I was asked to tone down my language > without any accompanying threats is probably the best way to keep us more > "colourful" folk in line I think. > > David.
I was actually very politely asking him to leave if he does feel that he cannot keep with a positive tone towards the group. It was not a threat as the only person I sometimes threaten is my son and even then it very rarely has the effect I expected it to have. Anyway, you are right, it was probably not the best choice of words and I apologize for that. I do hope that Oleg doesn't leave because he really knows this stuff inside out and backwards. Loosing him would be bad for the project, but we must strive to make an extra effort to keep our messages in check for even the slightest idea of rudeness, risking long discussions and people not seeing beyond the perceived rudeness and thus loosing possibly valuable contributions. There really is a huge advantage to being polite, especially in a mediated environment like a mailing list where we don't see the people we're talking to. Peace, Rui
