Hi Pln and all, about "why do people lie?" , I remember when I was young，my mum didn't allow me to eat choclate for bad tooth,so I always tell her I never eat despite the tell-tale chocolate paste all over my mouth. so I think ,wether we r children or adult, mostly，our reasons for lying are same: to get out of trouble,to make ourselves better in eyes of other,to protect ourselves and for personal gain. and in addition，I find people who lie more have many friends,of course,not all of this friends are his/her favourite,but we could not deny a detail that his/her higher order thinking. for" how to decet lie...",i think ,if a person who is lying to u,he/she will avoid making eye contact. Err,this is only my experience，hoping everyone freely exchange ideas. good night to all, Vera --- 11年2月11日，周五, pln471 <[email protected]> 写道：
发件人: pln471 <[email protected]> 主题: [ESL Podcast] Re: What tells you more about a person's personality: 收件人: [email protected] 日期: 2011年2月11日,周五,上午4:31 Hello Kysber,Misha,Ed,Charles,Simone,Rebeca,Briana,Andre,Shan and all, Long time no see!I hope all is well with familair and unknown faces here! First of all,congratualtions on 800 members since the creation of this special and friendly group!!!:-) Though I seem to come less often,it still holds a special place in my heart...since Ed,Pablo,Misha,Simone,Briana,Claire,Andre,Charles,Jason,Jane,Vera,Ali,Edward,Serdar,Immanuel,Kysber and so many more I can't name all have been my dear old friends... Misha and I met in where I have been living for the last 4 years last September for as short as 2 days...;-) Kysber is one unique ex-student of mine though we seldom keep in touch... Back to the topics, Well,ss a curious cat like myself,I apply as many approaches as I can when it comes to sounding someone out. When you keep an open mind,your intuitions can tell you a lot in a split second if you can trust the person you meet in less than 3 minutes' time. Don't get me wrong,it isn't just 'judging a book by its cover',but on second thought,if you don't know that person well,how is it possible not to judge him/her by his/her appreance,outfit,personal belongings/accessories? Then while exchanging small talks,how not to form your opinions of him/her when he speaks with an either soft or firm tone of voice,an energetic or lazy way of speaking? Then how not to know if he/she is either introvert or extrovert if he/she doesn't look you in the eyes and avoid eye contact? According to recent surveys,an interviewer decides in the first 5 minutes if the candidate will be hired and the rest of the interview is for him/her to find justifications as how to persude his fellow managers why he/she decides to hire such candidate... I found one article from Polish "Business English" monthly magazine and began using it as class materials for different business groups titled "LIE DETECTOR" in section,Consumer Skills. The quesions asked in my thread here have to go back to the very ancient and solid quesion: 1 Why do people lie?How to detect lies from others' appearance,outfits,voices,handwriting,written e-mails,etc??? 2 How much do you trust yourself and others? 3 Do you think you can be honest/open as well as polite? The above mentioned are what I asked my students in business English group to think about before our next week's class... Would you dare to tell me your own theories?:P Good night to you all, Pauline -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "ESL Podcast". To post to this group, send email to: [email protected] or just reply this message For invite your friends, visit: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/members_invite Know how help us, visit this FAQ at: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/web/frequently-asked-questions -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "ESL Podcast". To post to this group, send email to: [email protected] or just reply this message For invite your friends, visit: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/members_invite Know how help us, visit this FAQ at: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/web/frequently-asked-questions
