So I'll list some things that have worked in 1:1s and things that have not.


I also depends on where on the management spectrum your manager is. They
are highly-technical and could be an "individual contributor" on the other
end they are a glorified "project-manager." You can tell where my
preference is, but there's equal advantages and disadvantages to each.

One-on-ones are important because they provide a vehicle to discuss
difficult topics in private with rapid-iteration. Such as those about your
team, organization, the company, and your career that otherwise there might
not be set aside time for. It can be a chance to bond with your team or
your manager. It can be a way to align your team on initiatives and create
better working relationship across your team and other teams or create
relationships with upper management (from a report's view).


*Worked:*
Providing visibility about the company its initiatives that only your
manager might have visibility into.
Career advice and how to work in those goals into the day-to-day
How to push an initiative with another team or help with interfacing
getting connected with another team on a project
Candid bi-directional feedback
Mini-Agendas
Shared notes
Frequent
Non-work banter
High-level goals
High-level technical discussion (not like a design review)
What pressures is your manager shielding your from and how can you help or
what can you shield your report from and work on as a team.
Matching each other's conversational pace and preferences towards being
wordy. (maybe they are introverted or extroverted, finding a middle ground
if need be is important)

*Not Worked*
Cancelling, leaving early, infrequent, or irregular time schedules,
too-short.
Surprises, sometimes it's good to have a mini-agenda
Soliciting project updates (is there no other time, really?)
Having too many reports and not farming out 1:1s to TLs. I believe the
ideal time-frame is weekly 45-minutes and one should have no more than 5-7
reports.
Offering feedback, but prepending it with praise to try to 'soften the
blow.'
Repeating yourself / not being concise
Not giving the other person a chance to speak or letting them speak too
much (goes with introverted/extroverted point above).



I thought I would also offer up a couple of useful articles too that
essentially echo what I have said:
The series on Managing-Up:
https://hbr.org/2015/01/what-everyone-should-know-about-managing-up

Also, http://workplace.stackexchange.com/a/32797


Regards,

Dennis O.

On Thu, Jul 7, 2016 at 2:47 PM, David Parter <[email protected]> wrote:

> I just scheduled my monthly one-on-ones with the student staff... so this
> is timely.
>
> Your question -- what should people know about
> manager-and-worker-one-on-one meetings is very broad.
>
> My answers aren't complete, just what I am thinking of as I write them.
> And I think that is really valuable for me as a manager to review why we do
> one-on-ones and how they are conducted.. so thank you for asking. Hopefully
> others can contribute and learn from this conversation.
>
> I think the most important answer, if you can only have one answer, is
> what are the expectations (from both sides)?
>
> Getting more into it, first, on the expectations and implications/scope:
> - What is the purpose of the meeting?
> - What should each/all of the participants get out of the meeting?
> - Is this going to be used in any way for performance evaluation, or any
> other HR type action?
>
> I use regular one-on-ones with the staff for a couple of related purposes:
>
> - As a general check-in on how things are going. Not project specifics,
> not a status report, all the other stuff. Note: these aren't specific
> questions, just topics. How is work going? How's their workload? Working
> with the rest of the team? working with others outside the team? training?
> vacation? good stuff? problems? Communication with me (their manager) or
> others? Anything particularly interesting that they have been working on or
> learned as they worked? Any ideas for things we should change, improve,
> look at for the future? Career stuff? new projects they are interested in?
>
> -Anything I (their manager) can improve or help with?
>
> - For some staff, follow-up on any particular performance or other
> specific issues from past meetings
>
> I think it is very valuable to have regular meetings scheduled. Even
> though I talk to most of the staff every day, having a set time that is
> "our" time to talk about these things. It helps to have a scheduled time,
> so I am not ambushing them, and they are not ambushing me. They can prepare
> mentally, think about what they want to bring up, etc.
>
>  --david
>
> On 07/07/16 16:22, Esther Schindler wrote:
>
> Once again I'd like your input. I like to think the subject is interesting
> enough that you'll enjoy responding.
>
> This obviously isn't networking-related, but it certainly is germane to
> techies. Or, really, to anyone who works in a corporate environment.
>
> I’m writing a white paper that aims to give advice to creative workers
> (and to software developers in particular) about how to do one-on-ones
> well, in a way that benefits everyone (manager, employee, company… heck,
> the whole world). Fortunately, this isn’t a short piece, so I have some
> room to spread out. And I'd like your input (privately or publicly).
>
> The key question: What should people know about manager-and-worker
> one-on-one meetings?
>
> What do you wish your manager or employees had understood? What did you
> appreciate when they did?
>
> Among the topics I’m going to cover: why one-on-ones are important; what
> dire things happen when you don't do them, or don't honor that process; how
> the one-on-one is different based on your roles (manager/peon,
> client/consultant, mentor/mentee); logistics and timing; what you should
> expect to talk about... and NOT to talk about; real life examples (and
> lessons to take away from them); judging success.
>
> I’d love to hear from you about your advice and experience with
> one-on-ones – both the good ones and (even more valuably) when things did
> not work ideally. Tell me your stories. Anecdotes are awesome. If they
> happen to fit in any of the categories above, that’s groovy; if not, that’s
> cool too.
>
> You don’t need to be an “authority” on HR or doing one-on-ones. I want
> real-world experiences!
>
> It's completely okay to be anonymous; the point here is to share advice.
> Though if you would like to be quoted, that's do-able. (Context does help;
> if you've managed developers for 12 years readers will get a different
> perception than for someone on her first job.)
>
> --Esther
>  twitter.com/estherschindler
>
>
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