> On Behalf Of PAT MATHEWS > > This is going to be a long post of the "dump the load" > variety, so anyone not interested can either delete or skim, > but here goes:
Wow. Thanks very much (and everyone else who responded as well)!! Much more than I expected. > 1) It's not the end of the world. I know it definitely isn't the end of the world. It helps a lot to finally know what is going on and have some answers to (previously) bewildering behavior. And strategies for coping and dealing with it. One of the most wonderful things is to finally have an answer for the other parents who kept saying "Why don't you just spank her/discipline more/etc?" We knew instinctively that that was absolutely the wrong thing to do. Now we know why. > I wouldn't advise her to become, say, an accountant She's wanted to be a kindergarten teacher since she was in, well, kindergarten. She's kinda obsessed with it. ;-) > 2) In my observation, the ADD books have a few coping tricks > worth mentioning, but 90% of their focus is on the sort of > hyperactive boys who are really, really good at grabbing > opportunities and running with them; and they all push for > medication so hard you'd think they were sponsored by Big > Pharma All the books are aimed at boys. Both the AS and the ADD books. It seems that AS presents itself differently in girls so that makes it very difficult to pick good books. Speaking of medicine, she's been on an anti-depressant for a bit which seems to be making a big difference. She just started a stimulant a week ago. Too early to see if it has had any effect at this point. > 3) Again in my observation, Aspies come in roughly two > flavors: the organized, single-focused, linear mind; and the > absent-minded professor/free-spirited idea mill. Inattentive > ADD goes with the latter. If you have any use for the > Myer-Briggs at all, these map very roughly onto INTJ and INTP > respectively. I mention this because books on the Myer-Briggs > (a system which is totally non-judgmental and IMO the only > system that does NOT make judgments) has a lot of good tips > for life, love, acreers, and living with your... in this > case, I'd say INTP --- which are quite useful even though > they're designed for the 'normal' end of the spectrum. The second one of those is definitely my daughter. Wait a minute, *I'm" INTP!! Hmmm.... My wife and I are very into Myers-Briggs. I'm not sure what my daughter is. I don't think it is either one of those, though. I'll have to ask my wife. > 7) Workarounds for inattentive ADD include one that's really > useful and really, really cheap. You get a hard-blacked > flip-top pad down at Walgreens and the associated input > device. Make a To Do list of whatever seems to be needed. > Wild Ideas and For the Future on a back page. Obvious but > let's not lose track on the front page. If need be, "Have > done Today." Sounds anal, I know, but there are times it;s > really worthwhile to have a little list. I'll have to keep that one in mind. > Hope this helps, Yes, it helps a lot! - jmh _______________________________________________ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
