----- Original Message ----- From: "Ronn!Blankenship" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: "Killer Bs Discussion" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>; <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Saturday, December 27, 2003 5:23 PM Subject: RE: SCOUTED: More Teenagers Say No to Sex, but Experts Aren't Sure Why
> At 12:45 PM 12/27/03, Jim Sharkey wrote: > > >Ronn!Blankenship wrote: > > >Jim Sharkey wrote: > > >>Anyone not mature enough to buy condoms without being embarassed > > >>isn't mature enough for sex Maru > > >And how is that statement more useful than "just say no"? I.e., > > >lots of people who are not mature enough (particularly to deal with > > >the consequences) nevertheless have sex. > > >A lot of people would say that what takes more maturity is to wait, > > >especially when a boyfriend/girlfriend is pressuring one... > > > >You managed to completely miss the point of that sign off, Ronn!. It was > >in favor of abstinence due to a lack of knowledge and maturity. It's not > >intended to be a platitude or battle cry, but a statement of what I think > >about kids with serious cranio-rectal inversions having sex. > > Actually, I was agreeing with you. > > Sarcastically, perhaps, but agreeing nonetheless . . . > The problem as I see it, is a problem of focus. Too much attention is paid to young women (in regards to an abstinence program). The problem is mostly in the attitudes of young men, and the concept that manhood is somehow tied to non-solo sex and sexual performance. The fact is, and most of us who have reached maturity know this, that manhood is actually a function of being a caring father and husband and\or a recognition and readiness to devote ones self to a family one had helped create. This does not preclude frex single men or even gay men from the ranks of manhood. What is important is the masculine forms of nurturing and the skill sets needed to become, at the very least, a nominally effective husband and father. Any male can posses these forms and skills, but our society does a poor job of inducing these things into our psyches. Indeed, the opposite is vigorously reinforced. xponent I Was A Boy For Too Long Maru rob _______________________________________________ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
