A fix that would prevent lots of problem is to update the default theme (Human) to support color-schemes. I believe the main reason people install different themes is because they don't like the colors. (not that the default colors are wrong, its just that different people like different colors).
In any case, for the look and feel, this bug really should be fixed. It is in any case weird that it doesn't look in ~/.themes while it does use the user's ~/.gtkrc .. -- locally installed gtk themes not applied to admin apps https://launchpad.net/bugs/24280 -- ubuntu-bugs mailing list ubuntu-bugs@lists.ubuntu.com https://lists.ubuntu.com/mailman/listinfo/ubuntu-bugs