>> Things are never black and white, there are always two sides of a story >> and people are never only good or bad. >> >> But was it really our first and foremost concern to find out the >> "truth"? >> Is the lesson to be learned, if you will, about who is to blame? About >> shaming the victims or shaming the alleged perpetrator? About whether or >> not the "accused" will be found "guilty"? Is an "evidence-based >> discussion" or "due process" really going to solve the greater issue >> here? >> >> In a community that claims to strive for equality, accusations against >> one >> person raise much broader questions and issues, like: >> >> -) How much leadership/charisma/hero-worshiping can be healthy for a >> community of self-empowered people? >> >> -) What is not criminal can still be harmful, disrespectful, humiliating >> or >> violating consent, just as what is criminal can still be ethical or >> consensual. Innocent until found guilty misses the mark in this context. >> >> -) If we were living in a community/society of fulfilled people, who >> feel >> accepted, approved of and loved by their peers, there would be no such >> thing as abuse or harassment. But we don't. (Yet?) How do we deal with >> this discrepancy in a constructive way? > > Beautiful! > >> -) If someone voices concerns about a certain individual, how do we open >> lines of communication before too many get harmed? How do we treat both >> parties involved respectfully? >> >> -) Even when a person, from the bottom of their heart, talks about >> sex-positivism, respect for others, transparency and equality, it does >> not >> mean that they can live up to their own expectations. Their own >> disability >> to do so may make them even more enthusiastic talking about it. >> >> -) We are all humans, we are fallible, we are flawed, we cause harm in >> others. The question is, do we create an environment where failure is >> recognized, do we surround ourselves with friends who will tell us we >> failed? Will they express concern, when self-reflection and >> self-criticism >> have failed us? Will people speak up even to the one person considered a >> role model? Or do we kick issues into the long grass and surround >> ourselves with yes-men? >> This ties in with the first question. > > Great questions. Thanks for being so constructive! Thanks! While it comes late for some, it might help the community fail better next time. ;-) Feel free to add more questions.
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