On Fri, Oct 12, 2018 at 7:19 AM Surabhi Tomar <[email protected]>
wrote:

> Does anyone know what legal hurdles can legitimately stop an Opt-out organ
> donation program in India?
>
> An example would be having an Opt-out box on the driver's license or aadhar
> card.
>
> Also, would there be any privacy concerns?
>
> Surabhi Tomar



Dear Surabhi,

I don't know what your reasons are for posing the question, but this
occured to me.

The benefits of organ donation are self evident, so I won't go into that, I
don't argue it at all. I am not against organ donation, but I do feel it
has to be completely voluntary without even the mildest coercion. It is a
profound choice that has to be made with a certain maturity.

People are emotional beings, they get attached to things they own, and
one's organs are their ultimate ownership. Even the poorest man in India
has at least his body to call his own.

In any culture, especially in an ancient culture like India there has been
a deep awareness of death and its implications. We burn the bodies, and
distribute the belongings of the deceased among the poor. Nothing can be
spared, even the dead person's bed and old clothes must be given away.

We give away everything and burn the body because as long as such things
remain it can trigger intense memories in the living, preventing them from
moving on. I've seen this in many funerals, including when my father died,
there was no hunger, no desire to sleep until he was rendered into the
fire; and then as if a switch snapped, normalcy returned, not just in me
but in every member of the family, even those not present at the cremation
ground. In times before refrigeration there was no question of keeping the
body around, after 4 hours it would decompose in the Indian weather, but
now with refrigeration people hold onto the dead body for days prolonging
their suffering, but that's a topic for another time.

Something in the emotional body remains connected to the deceased as long
as they remain in some form. When we cremate the body, especially as you
see the searing flames there's a lot of emotional catharsis that happens,
and this is especially true in India where there's no cosmetic veneer given
to death. The son (usually) will take the still warm ashes and bone
fragments, crush them with his bare hand, especially the large bones like
the hip and femur put them in a pot and dissolve them in the nearest ocean
or river. This may sound bizarre but it gives enormous closure. We luckily
don't hide death like some other cultures, we want to see death first hand,
the totality of it, because life and death are one movement.

In this way the emotional bonds are severed instantly, but when we bring
parts of the dead body alive in a new being this bond remains.

One doesn't have to be a yogi to see all this, Indian cinema's potboilers
have made many intense emotional dramas where the organ recipient becomes a
love interest, or some other form of intense emotional entanglement starts
with the stranger. This is how life works, we attach to whatever we feel a
sense of ownership towards even if it doesn't make any sense. Before the
copy-cats made a genre of it, whoever wrote the first such plot line will
have seen this happen in real life.

Humans process life at many levels, the intellect and conscious action is
the smallest dimension of life. For most, especially among India's masses
this unconscious illogical dimension of their life is the grandest. They
don't have any self help books to fall back on, their only protection is a
yogic culture that has deeply understood life.

In this culture we have never been concerned only with this life, we are
not a YOLO culture. We look at life and death as one big cycle, and the
ultimate aspiration has always been for mukti. Memories are karma, bonds
that hold us back from liberation.

Whatever I've written about is only the tiniest fragment of what happens
upon death, I've not gone into what is the experience of the dead, even
though they are the principal participants in this, and this culture has
always been aware of that dimension of life too. It would also be unfair to
go into it, since most people don't experience that dimension, so there's
no room for rational rejection or acceptance.

Here are some press stories nevertheless on what can happen,

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-558256/I-given-young-mans-heart---started-craving-beer-Kentucky-Fried-Chicken-My-daughter-said-I-walked-like-man.html

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-557864/Man-given-heart-suicide-victim-marries-donors-widow-kills-exactly-way.html

I only wish that anyone who wishes to impinge on this very deep culture
that has understood both life and death deeply do the necessary spade work.

It is too easy to only think of the grateful and joyful tears of the ones
who have received the organs, and their happy faces. Their testimonies are
important, but there's another side to it.

Any activist, judge or civil servant who will enact laws on this topic must
spend a few days or weeks - day and night in burning ghats watching the
bodies burn, they must visit the houses of the dead in different parts of
India to see the stages of grief, they must spend time in the emotional
lives of people who have lost their loved ones in accidents where the
bodies were never found. They must deeply engage with the process of life
and death and experience the dimensions of emotional closure I am talking
about. This is the intense responsibility with which those who will affect
the lives of others must act. This is sincerity.

The human experience is very very deep, so it behooves us especially in
this age of instant gratification and attention poverty to look far beyond
the surface.

All this is not to say organ donation is bad. Anyone who along with their
family has the maturity to not be emotionally attached to his/her body can
safely give away everything. They won't suffer too much. A little suffering
is acceptable if another life can be saved, but a lifetime or several of
suffering is too heavy a price to pay.

Not all memories are bad either. We always preserve the remains of the dead
sages in samadhis, properly embalmed in ashes and camphor for this reason,
their memories must linger, because they have done something remarkable
with their lives. For most people who lead forgettable lives, the sooner
they are gone the better it is for everyone, there's less drama and
suffering.

Finally, India is overwhelmingly largely an illiterate country where only
the urban educated can understand the implications of an opt-out. For most
in India the "system" will totally determine their life, they are that
powerless or clueless. Given India's bureaucratic sluggishness one would be
wise to be leery of any extra power being given to the government over life
and death.

Besides must the human be only limited by the law? Then where is the
humanity? The law is a negative list, which prohibits some bad actions at
penalty of injury. Humans must also have a positive list, to act in truth,
to act in non-violence, to only take what belongs to one, to not be
avaricious, to act in compassion, to not act in hypocrisy, to act in
sincerity, to act in wisdom etc. Only then does life make sense. So even if
the law permits it, which it may not, I don't think that is an active
permission to enact.

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