On Thu, Oct 29, 2015 at 12:28 PM Udhay Shankar N <[email protected]> wrote:

> Interesting. I'd like to ask the list a question from here: "Who was the
> last person you made friends with (leave out names if you like), and how
> did they transition from acquaintance to friend?"
>

Friends, IME, happen to you when you are busy making other plans.

The friends in my life have come from several streams:

1. School/College: Among all the people I went to school/college with, I
keep in regular touch with maybe 5 of them. I can pick up the thread
comfortably with another 10 if I got to meet them somewhere.

2. Interests (Linux, Silk, Books, Hobbies, etc.): This set keeps morphing
all the time. For example, among the dozens of friends I made through Linux
circles I am in regular touch with maybe 4-5 of them. As my interests
change (Linux -> Photography), some of the more casual friends drop away
and are replaced by friends with interests in the new field.

3. Former colleagues: During my first couple of jobs, I made the mistake of
being friends with the people I worked with (and in some cases directly
managed). Since then, I have modified my behavior such that I do not overly
socialize with the people I currently work with. But once they become
former colleagues (because either I or they move to another
employer/group/city), I tend to develop a friendship with some of them.

The latest friend(s) I made is through stream '2'. I met a small group of
people at work who are interested in Mindfulness Meditation and support
each other in our practice.

Thaths

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