I never skip these things - even though sometimes the inner cringe is strong, to be potentially viewed as impecunious. Or miserly. It’s an interesting people filter to have and I laugh at my predicament openly. Interestingly enough, most of my friends who make easily 10x more than I did ( I’m in a better position now, gratefully) wished they were doing what I did at The Huda Bar. And I am very, very grateful for the people, the experiences and opportunities THB offered me. It was a good foundation, even if I needed to take a pay cut for a whole decade. I recently had to let someone go and it was made deeply unpleasant by him assuming no responsibility for his shortcomings and openly disparaging my managerial style as fouling up the work culture and then refusing to show up for work the remaining days he had left. Upon asking further, it seems to be standard practice in the corporate world, which made me extraordinarily sad - that the rules encourage poor integrity. And I’m glad I had my previous experience with people that cushioned the blow of this - and somehow I’m grateful (there’s that word again) that I had that experience over money.
Huda Masood +91 9886796967 On Wed, 29 May 2024 at 12:40, Ameya Nagarajan via Silklist < silklist@lists.digeratus.in> wrote: > > Yeah I've been the one earning a fraction of the others for years so I > would often just have to skip things because I couldn't afford it. > > > Cordially, > Ameya Nagarajan > (she/her) > > <http://www.linkedin.com/in/ameyann> > > > > > > On Wed, 29 May 2024 at 14:21, Alaric Snell-Pym via Silklist < > silklist@lists.digeratus.in> wrote: > >> On 28/05/2024 18:55, Suresh Ramasubramanian via Silklist wrote: >> > I and four of my old school friends just had a longish dinner with >> drinks (beer or juices) and just split the bill five ways. It gets to be >> fun when people agonise over the split so much. If you end up a bit short >> in one dinner it’ll even out in the next .. >> This works if everyone has plenty of spare money, but in my poorer days >> I've had situations where I feel I need to go along to a group dinner or >> miss out on some important networking. So I've eaten frugally, staying >> carefully within my budget... but then if at the end everyone wants to >> just split the bill equally I'd be in trouble. >> >> So, especially if you're not sure everyone present is flush with money, >> make sure it's not socially awkward for anybody who wants to just pay >> for what they ate to do so :-) >> >> -- >> Alaric Snell-Pym (M0KTN neé M7KIT) >> http://www.snell-pym.org.uk/alaric/ >> >> -- >> Silklist mailing list >> Silklist@lists.digeratus.in >> https://mailman.panix.com/listinfo.cgi/silklist >> > -- > Silklist mailing list > Silklist@lists.digeratus.in > https://mailman.panix.com/listinfo.cgi/silklist >
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