I remember the Thursday group from 2004. It was, privileged, to say the least. Not a fan. The misogyny was palpable, locker room sentiment dressed nicely with single malt whiskey.
Different groups of friends but pretty much the same model with the split - Those who drank alcohol - alcohol bill split equally between them Those who didn’t - their drinks split between them separately. Food was almost always split equally between all members. Of course we stayed up to date with each other’s lives and we knew/were careful with folks who were going through life changes/had economic challenges and we rallied around them, and took care of their bill sometimes/or secretly subsidised their per head cost. Payment was generally made by one person and everyone else at the table immediately paypal/upi transferred money to them. It’s made for a very comforting environment where there is no discomfort of going out with friends - you’ll either take care of someone or be taken care of. Huda Masood +91 9886796967 On Thu, 25 Jan 2024 at 09:51, Ra Jesh via Silklist < silklist@lists.digeratus.in> wrote: > Varies by group. > > I am also someone who is happy to pay the bill that day and do the math > next morning (when I am sober, LOL) and message in some common group chat > what each person's share is. > > I think the right time to get consensus on the modality is 5 min BEFORE > the bill is asked for. People have better ideas at this point than when the > bill is actually sitting there on the table. > > Definitely another point that lines up with the "mental model" aspect. > > On Thu, Jan 25, 2024, 09:16 Udhay Shankar N via Silklist < > silklist@lists.digeratus.in> wrote: > >> >> This is a topic that comes up every now and again. Speaking as someone >> who regularly organizes group meetups, >> >> 1. We usually split the bill evenly, because (at least as far as food is >> concerned) the entire table ends up sampling whatever is ordered. >> 2. The people I tend to meet with tend to order things which are roughly >> similar. >> 3. Liquor is where this model faces challenges. A teetotaller (or even a >> beer drinker, such as myself) might feel hard done by, if asked, on a >> regular basis, to partly subsidize someone ordering much more expensive >> spirits. >> >> The solution isn't easily achieved. At least in India, separate checks >> aren't the norm, and most POS systems aren't set up for it. Also, keeping >> track like this is a tedious and mood killing chore at the end of a >> pleasant evening. >> >> What are the thoughts of the hive mind? >> >> >> https://www.businessinsider.in/policy/economy/news/splitting-the-check-is-no-longer-restaurant-etiquette-in-2024-its-every-diner-for-themself/articleshow/107123596.cms >> >> -- >> >> ((Udhay Shankar N)) ((udhay @ pobox.com)) ((www.digeratus.com)) >> >> -- >> Silklist mailing list >> Silklist@lists.digeratus.in >> https://mailman.panix.com/listinfo.cgi/silklist >> > -- > Silklist mailing list > Silklist@lists.digeratus.in > https://mailman.panix.com/listinfo.cgi/silklist >
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