Re: [Silk] A little drift on the " What do you do?" question

2024-10-10 Thread Dave Long via Silklist
> ...most of you might cause less harm to yourself and the world by doing > nothing... Blaise Pascal (named for the programming language?) shared the same opinion: https://gallica.bnf.fr/ark:/12148/bpt6k6399515c/f176.image.r=que%20tout%20le%20malheur%20des%20hommes%20vient%20de%20ne%20savoir%20p

Re: [Silk] "what do you do?"

2024-10-10 Thread Cindy Gallop via Silklist
Huda - you make a very good point. As women, we can be automatically dismissed at first sight by men, to the extent they don't even bother to ask the question. Earlier this year, I treated myself to an American Express excursion to famed Danish restaurant Noma (I'd always wanted to go, bookings w

Re: [Silk] "what do you do?"

2024-10-10 Thread Hari Shenoy via Silklist
On Thu, Oct 10, 2024 at 9:06 AM Huda Masood via Silklist < silklist@lists.digeratus.in> wrote: > > I’m curious - what causes this desire for the clickbait equivalent of > introductions? Ennui ? Disillusionment? Shame at what pays the rent? Shame > at being unemployed? Lack of imagination at how u

Re: [Silk] "what do you do?"

2024-10-10 Thread Dave Long via Silklist
> the gist is I treat the questions as "how might we be connected, what common > things might we share?" If the Māori are like the Hawai'ians, they will even use a different verb to describe what their marae (invariable?) "is" to the one they'd use to describe what their job (variable) "is".

Re: [Silk] "what do you do?"

2024-10-10 Thread Charles Haynes via Silklist
To riff a little on what Alaric said, since moving to New Zealand and learning a bit about Māori culture, there is a Māori custom of the "pepeha" which is basically a short bio introducing yourself, Telling people who you are, linking you to the land, mountain, river, sea, tribe, subtribe, whakapap

Re: [Silk] "what do you do?"

2024-10-10 Thread Alaric Snell-Pym via Silklist
On 09/10/2024 18:08, Rajesh Kasturirangan via Silklist wrote: I don’t mind the ‘what do you do’ question. I make up an answer that’s both true and contextually relevant. What bugs me a lot more is ‘where are you from?’ - often with the connotation of ‘where are you really from.’ To which I giv

Re: [Silk] "what do you do?"

2024-10-10 Thread Alaric Snell-Pym via Silklist
On 10/10/2024 05:48, Veena Venugopal via Silklist wrote: I did not have a problem with the "what do you do" question as long as i was doing what i loved, which was being a journalist and writer. These last 5 years, I've worked for Apple and I realised when people asked what I did, I'd say, "I use

Re: [Silk] "what do you do?"

2024-10-10 Thread Huda Masood via Silklist
It’s interesting to see the nature of the answers when you segregate them by gender :) I’m spending the week mushroom hunting in a forest, with a group whose average age is 70 and they speak, almost exclusively, German. My German is not so good. This morning, I asked one of the group, what they d