short version: how do i make tmux stop resizing the window? i connect to a tmux session from two machines with slightly different xterm sizes, which causes tmux to pop the window size around and messes up the backlog. i was under the impression setw aggressive-resize off would disable this, but it doesn't appear to work. maybe i'm experiencing regular resizing and not aggressive resizing? do i have to run setw on all the clients all the time? i'm a little confused about whether windows exist on the client or the server, or where or how many times i have to apply this option.
basically, having achieved a stable window size in one client, how do i lock the window to that size? i don't want it getting bigger if i disconnect. for that matter, i would prefer that it never shrink even if i connect to it from a stupidly small netbook screen. i see force-height force-width options, but they sound like they are really max-X options and don't actually force anything. is there a "screw you, i'm the boss" option i can set?