[jQuery] Stuck: with form validation + forms plugin w/ajax submit and forms options object

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While I love jQuery, I haven't used it for anything particularly
complicated - I'm having a difficult time getting an ajax submitted
form in to work with the form plugin and the validation plugin.

I'm trying to use the validation plugin's submit handler method:

submitHandler: function(form) {
        $(form).ajaxSubmit();
  }

to also include the form plugin's options object that looks something
like:

var options = {
success: function() {
self.parent.tb_show('Email My Visit','#TB_inline?
height=180&width=407&inlineId=tbSuccess','');},

error: function() {
self.parent.tb_show('Email My Visit','#TB_inline?
height=180&width=407&inlineId=tbFailure','');
                                                }
                                        };

, but I have no idea as to how to go about doing that.
submitHandler: function(form) {
        $(form).ajaxSubmit(options);
  }

seemed like the obvious solution, but that didn't work.  Help would be
much appreciated, been really banging my head against the wall on
this.  The form validation works, but when I submit it, the success/
error functions aren't triggering.  They did work when called by  $
('#ajaxForm').ajaxForm(options);

Thanks,
Chaim