Finally, I found something. It's Dolphin! I've done some longer testing, always playing the same video parallel with a dd if=/dev/zero of=/tmp/10G bs=1M count=10000, in mplayer, for a minute, several times. When I do this by opening the file in Dolphin, I get about 15 interruptions, some for longer than a second. Started on the command line, there are very few, I can play the video for minutes without a gap. Hooray!
In KDE, I usually play videos by opening them in Dolphin. I exchanged 'mplayer %U' by 'xterm -T MPLAYER -e mplayer %U' in the settings, now mplayer runs in a terminal, and all is fine. I created a window rule so the terminal automatically minimizes. Cool! It only happens in mplayer and mplayer2. Other players work fine, but I like mplayer best, and prefer to run it without any window decoration. Now, would this be an MPlayer problem, or one of Dolphin? Wonko