Hi Thuy and members, This is really a very hard question and, of course, to answer it is not easy at all. I don't have the ambition of answering your question, let alone giving any advices because I seems also to be in the similar situation like you are. I just want to tell about my true feeling when facing failures. But first of all, let me remember the biggest failure in my past life. Seems not so easy. It's not because I didn't fail but I have a habit of not considering unsuccesses as failures ^_^
When I was a very small child, I used to be very afraid of many things, especially with failures and criticisms. I was just afraid of those things even though I rarely faced such situations. I used to ask myself about what others think if I fail or do something wrong. Consequently, I became a quite shy and shame child, who had never ever done anything with boldness. Fortunately, when being able to read, I was approached many kinds of books since my mothers was a teacher. As I read those books, I started perceiving many new things, especially the recognition of the importance of acting with boldness. I must say it was one the biggest change in my mind at that time. It was writen in a book that we should consider our target as a perfect result, which consistes of all essential factors. When lacking of any of those factors, we couldn't get that perfect result, which also means failure. However it doesn't mean that you do not have any of those factors but it just means that you haven't had all the factors. After each time of failure, we have a chance to know and collect a new more essential factor, which contributes to our later success. Gradually, when we have collected all the essential factors, it is the time at which we're ready to achieve the goal. I think this is a logical and reasonable discription of target achievement progress. As I think in that way, when facing difficulties or failures, I often encourage myself that it's just a signal indicating that I'm still laking of something, and I need to study more. Obviously, I dare say that everyone feel sad when they at first facing their failure. It's the natural and reasonal feeling of mind kind. This moment is very meaningful because it express our most true feeling and the level of our desire for achieving the target. It also help us to increase our determination to succeed for the next time. This is just my own thought, I'm also keen for knowing your and others' ideas ^_^ Thanks for your question, Nam ----- Original Message ----- From: Nguyen Thuy To: [email protected] Sent: Tuesday, December 30, 2008 9:18 AM Subject: [ESL Podcast] what would you do to jump out of the failing feeling Hi everyone, Today I would like to raise a new topic, and nice to hear your voice. "How do you feel if you keep failing and what would you do to jump out of the failing feeling?". I start this topic because recently I consistently taste the failure in getting a job. I graduated 4 months ago, and now I am still unemployed. Thank you and HAPPY NEW YEAR! Nguyen Thuy --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "ESL Podcast". To post to this group, send email to: [email protected] or just reply this message For invite your friends, visit: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/members_invite Know how help us, visit this FAQ at: http://groups.google.com/group/eslpodcast/web/frequently-asked-questions -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
