I now have connection for both the wireless and the netbook that is acting as the AP. I took out the bridge entirely, quit trying to play with port forwarding, just used dead simple setup. dnsmasq was the only missing piece, if I had not been focusing on bridging. Bridging is probably for the other direction.
But the wireless is pretty slow, so I'm not sure I'm finished. I have to go take care of some family business, when I'm done I'll post the details. But it's really pretty simply. I was just working too hard. -- Joel Rees Randomly ranting: http://reiisi.blogspot.com
