On 2004-05-31, Steve Lamb penned: > > Paul Johnson wrote: >> I don't think Mr. Lyons meant anything by it, Steve. Back off a >> bit... > > Hell no. Meant doesn't matter. I, for one, am sick of this > child-centric thinking that pervades every portion of our lives. > This is one thing that I do NOT back down on because it is to the > point of being extremely discrimintory. The fact he didn't intend > it to be patronizing and rude doesn't chage the fact it WAS. He > had best think on it for a while and an apology would not be > entirey uncalled for.
Well, I'm not taking it as discriminatory, patronizing, or rude. Maybe I'm just in a forgiving mood today, but I read the original statement as "Having kids is a great experience; the personality you present is grade-A; and yes, I know it's none of my business." I'm sure that having kids is wonderful for most people; it seems to be a real life changer. I can't argue with the opinion that I have a great personality *wink*. And he said right in the same paragraph that he knows it's none of his business. So, as the intended audience of the post, I'm not requesting an apology. I am, however, also sick of the child-centric thinking. I've had people tell me that only selfish freaks wouldn't want to have kids. Well, duh -- I recognize that I'm selfish, and that's one of many good reasons not to have kids =) I have actually wondered, at times, if people's powerful negative feelings about *my* (current) life choice don't boil down to a sense of jealousy; the feeling that I should have to go through something just because everyone else "has" to. But no, I didn't get that sense from the original post. I wouldn't dream of telling someone not to have a kid (though I've had to surpress the desire to do so on a number of occasions). I don't know why anyone would want to tell me to have one. -- monique -- To UNSUBSCRIBE, email to [EMAIL PROTECTED] with a subject of "unsubscribe". Trouble? Contact [EMAIL PROTECTED]
