Sex and Sexuality in Islam
Anal Sex
It's very natural to be slightly embarrassed or uncomfortable in the face
of this issue but we have to admit that sex is a natural part of our
existence. Also, teens and adolescents will be curious and they will search
for answers. If they have nowhere or no one reliable to go to because of
embarrassment, they will go to more readily available but unreliable or
un-Islamic sources. This might end doing more harm than good. I hope
providing this information will benefit everyone - parents and kids alike.
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Anal intercourse with one's wife is a major sin, whether it occurs at the
time of menstruation or not. The Prophet SAWS (Peace & Blessings of Allah
be upon Him) cursed the one who does this: "Cursed is the one who
approaches his wife in her rectum" (Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 2/479; see
also Saheeh al-Jaami', 5865).
The Prophet SAWS (Peace & Blessings of Allah be upon Him) also said: "The
one who has intercourse with a menstruating woman, or with a woman in her
rectum, or who goes to a fortune-teller, has disbelieved in what was
revealed to Muhammad." (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, no. 1/243; see also Saheeh
al-Jaami', 5918).
In spite of the fact that many wives of sound nature refuse this, there are
some husbands who threaten their wives with divorce if they do not obey
them (in this matter), and some even deceive their wives, who are too shy
to ask scholars about it, into thinking that it is permissible. The Prophet
SAWS (Peace & Blessings of Allah be upon Him) said that a man may approach
his wife in any way he likes, from the front or the back, so long as
intercourse takes place in the place from through which a child is born.
There is no doubt that the rectum is the place from which waste matter is
expelled, not the place from which a child is born.
Another reason why some may commit this immoral act is that they enter upon
what should be a clean married life with some jaahili (ignorant) traditions
and odd practices, or with memories of scenes from indecent movies, for
which they have not repented to Allaah.
It is known that this act is forbidden even if both partners agree to it.
Mutual consent to a haraam deed does not make it halaal.
I ask Allah to bestow upon us a proper understanding of His religion and to
make us adhere to its limits, for He is the All-Hearing, the One Who
answers prayers.
Taken from www.themodernreligion.com
"...Having demonstrated that same-sex desire and behavior was present in
past Muslim societies, the question arises of its permissibility.
Jurisprudence has addressed same-sex sexual activity as illicit sex outside
of a legally sanctioned relationship. Traditional jurists vehemently
condemned all such illicit intercourse, including that between a man and a
woman. Ibn Hajar Haytami's famous "List of Enormities" (i.e., major sins),
which treats several offenses together, can illustrate this point, as it
groups together:
[I]llicit intercourse (zina); sodomy (liwat: anal intercourse between men);
bestiality (ityan al-baha'im); anal intercourse with a woman other than
one's wife; female tribadism (musaahaqat al-nisa'), which is a woman doing
with a woman something resembling what a man would do with her; and a
husband having sex with his wife's corpse.1
In this list, Ibn Hajar does not make a distinction between acts that are
forbidden because they are intrinsically sinful (bestiality and necrophilia
can be assumed to fall into this category) and those where the issue is the
lack of a proper legal relationship between the parties. This is the case
with illicit intercourse between a man and a woman (zina). If the parties
were married, there would be no sin; thus, the problem is not the sexual
act but rather the partner with whom it is performed.
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Sex Technique
Any manoevre or position that adds to the pleasure of the sexual encounter
between husband and wife is permissible and commendable. One exception is
anal intercourse, which is forbidden in Islam. A man may get to his wife
from her behind, provided the male organ is introduced in the vagina and
not in the anus. This was clearly indicated by the Quran and the Sunna- The
Quran says:
"Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when and how
you will" (2:223)
The similie on this verse makes intercourse similar to agriculture,
entailing putting the seed into the soil in the hope of getting the fruit;
and this does not apply to anal sex.
Several prophetic traditions forbid the practice of anal sex:
"Do not visit women into their back passages" (Ahmad, Termizi, Ibn Magah)
When the jews of Madina argued with some muslims and said that vaginal
coitus approached from behind would cause the baby to have squint in his
eyes, the prophet denied this and said:
"From behind or from the front as long as it is in the vagina." (Muslim
and Abu Dawood)
"Cursed he. ..who has sex with a woman through her back passage." (Ahmad)
It is reported that the occasion when the verse of the Quran "Your wives
are a tilth unto you, so approach your tilth how and when you will", was
when Umar ibn al Khattab (prophet's companion and later second caliph) had
(vaginal) sex with his wife approaching her from behind and was worried
lest it be unlawful. He went to the prophet looking distressed, and asked
why he was worried, he used the modest and shy expression: Apostle of God.
I changed my saddle'last night' , He was relieved when the Quran and the
prophet announced the permissibility of the practice. Another Quranic
reference to this matter came with the injunction that intercourse is to be
avoided while the woman is menstruating:
"They ask you concerning menstruation. Say it is a hurt and a pollution. So
keep away from women during their periods and do not approach them until
they become clean. But when they have purified themselves you may approach
them in any manner, time or place ORDAINED FOR YOU By GOD." (2:222)
In Islamic law, anal intercourse even with the wife is illegitimate. If
legally proven, it is punishable according to the discretion of the judge.
It stands as legal justification for the wife to apply for divorce if the
husband is unwilling to desist.
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There's a couple more hadeeths (Sayings of our Prophet) you can use that
are really definitive:
"Cursed is the one who approaches his wife in her rectum" (Reported by
Imaam Ahmad, 2/479; see also Saheeh al-Jaami', 5865).
and:
"The one who has intercourse with a menstruating woman, or with a woman in
her rectum, or who goes to a fortune-teller, has disbelieved in what was
revealed to Muhammad." (Reported by al-Tirmidhi, no. 1/243; see also Saheeh
al-Jaami', 5918).
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