I completely agree with Joel. I am one of those wives who doesn't like a lot
off boat heel. I recognize that it is completely illogical and I do try to push
myself. I have found that when the wind picks up I do much much better when I
am on the helm- that way I can pinch when I feel uncomfortable. My husband is
also really good about reducing sail when I ask. Having a sense of control
makes all the difference.
Joanne
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From: Ron Casciato via CnC-List
Sent: Saturday, September 20, 2014 11:09 AM
To: Chuck S, Ron Casciato via CnC-List
How comfortable is she sailing the boat? Having sailed with a number of
girlfriends, I found the more comfortable they were at the helm, the less
concerned they were with heeling, gusts etc. Have you tried giving her the
wheel? She can control the heel and you can ease sheets.
FWIW, When I taught sailing, I stonrgly recommended that spouses be in
different boats because the wives learned and did more.
Perhaps she would benefit from lessons from a friend or sailing school?
Joel
On Saturday, September 20, 2014, Chuck S via CnC-List <cnc-list@cnc-list.com>
wrote:
David,
Well said. I am learning late in life that many wives don't appreciate when a
sailboat heels or as mine says, ". . . don't like when it leans".
And what I find challenging and fun about sailing like short tacking through a
narrow channel or sailing hard on the wind close hauled, causes my wife anxiety
or grief. Just when the wind starts getting good, she usually asks to go
somewhere for a swim.
I recently went sailing w a friend with the same problem. His wife is very
similar to mine. We've all been friends since before we married over twenty
five years ago. He wanted to show off his new boat and his wonderful country
of Holland. His plan; the guys went sailing for 10 days in Holland while the
wives went touring by car through France. I noticed most sailboat crews were
guys, many skippers were alone, a very few white haired couples and the same
number of twenty-ish couples. My friend and I had a great time sailing
whenever possible and remarked several times when the boat was making 8 to 9
knots and heeled to 25 degrees, and we were having fun, "The girls would hate
this." One leg on the North Sea, we sailed w just the 110% downwind in 27
knots wind making 9 knots boatspeed. On the return, we had 18 to 20 knots on
the nose. Sailing would have taken longer, causing us to miss getting a slip,
so we motorsailed w a reefed main making 8.3 knots. The main steadied the boat
so she maintained momentum and sliced better through the waves. I remember
playing w the vang to get a better shape to the top of the sail, because the
boat had no traveller. The girls would have hated it.
So, I'm looking for suggestions to keep both the boat and the wife, happy.
--
Joel
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