On Mar 30, 2008, at 2:54 PM, Nick Arnett wrote:

> On Sun, Mar 30, 2008 at 2:02 PM, Dave Land <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
>
>>
>>> The comments along the lines of "What did he think he was signing
>>> up for?"
>>> and "Others aren't using the war as an excuse" really get under my
>>> skin.
>>> Walk a mile in his shoes, people.
>>
>> What do you mean for us to do with that challenge, exactly?
>
> Nothing.  Nobody here said anything like that.  I was talking about  
> comments
> to the article, on the Rolling Stone web site.

Ahh. I read the article, but not the comments. The article itself
took Blake Miller's (and others') problems seriously, or so it
seemed to me. I don't very often read comments on articles like
this -- a funny thing, considering what we do for a living...

> I'm guessing you thought I was talking about the article?  I  
> wasn't.  I was
> talking about people who refuse to take PTSD seriously, as if it  
> were merely
> a matter of sucking it up or whatever.  Look at the comments by
> "RealAmerican" on the R.S. site.

I thought you were talking about the article and possibly my
response to it -- the questions that swirl in my head about
my automatic assumption that I would (at least verbally) beat
Ryan's ass "across that fuckin' corn field" if he told me he
wanted to enlist. Sorry if I took it too personally. I guess
the article got to me more than I realized. I got a serious
case of Daddy-protecting-his-son out of reading it.

Incidentally, I heard back from my buddy Kurt in Iraq -- he
didn't have a lot of time to write just now, but he was
very surprised to hear from me after three decades, and he is
definitely in Iraq, having just taken a new assignment of
some sort. In a picture of Kurt with US Rep. Tim Murphy,
Kurt looks to be about the same age he was when I last saw
him: about 18. He says it's the short haircut.

> You repeated my point a different way when you wrote that you don't  
> know
> what it was like to be Kurt or Wes.  Exactly my point.  Isn't that  
> what
> "walk a mile in his shoes" means?  Before passing judgment, realize  
> that you
> don't know what another person has been through?

On this point, you and I are in complete agreement. To be
honest, I don't even know that I can walk a mile in my own
shoes from a different time in my life: I try to think about
what it was to be a scrawny teenager in Pittsburgh, or a
father of a dying child... I'm not even sure I can honestly
get hold of what _those_ people, who were me, were feeling.

> I'm a little surprised at your response, given how much you know  
> about my
> own dealings with PTSD and what I do to help others.  But a lot of  
> it is
> beyond words, almost by definition.

I think my response tells more about me and my fears than
it does about your comment, specifically.

Dave

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