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From: "Bryon Daly" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: "Killer Bs Discussion" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
Sent: Sunday, August 08, 2004 10:51 PM
Subject: Re: Objective Evil


> On Sun, 8 Aug 2004 17:56:08 -0500, Dan Minette
> <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
> > From: "JDG" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
> > > At 03:25 PM 8/8/2004 -0500 Dan Minette wrote:
> > > >> >I went to the web site, and I am embarassed as a Catholic by the
lack
> > of
> > > >> >consistant logic.
> > > >>
> > > >> At what point does your embarassment cause you to become a member
of
> > the
> > > >> Protestant Church at which you an elder, and you stop calling
yourself
> > a
> > > >> Catholic?
> > > >
> > > >When and if I am called to do that by the Spirit.  :-)
> > >
> > > In the meantime, it is a bit grating for an office-holder of another
> > > Church, a Church whose raison d'etre is opposition to Catholicism,
> >
> > no,  the raison d'etre is following Jesus, the Christ, the son of the
> > living God.  The church Jesus divided. You may fully believe that God
only
> > speaks through a hierarchy, and when people were thrown out of the
church
> > for the horrid sin of objecting to the selling of grace, that God was
> > behind this.  Well, I don't.
> >
> > I see the one church as broken, not whole within the Catholic church,
and
> > then a bunch of heritics.  I realize that we differ.  I don't see
> > denominational differences as critical; we differ there too.  I know
that
> > denominations are becomming far less important.
>
> Dan, what led you to your current situation of affiliating yourself
> with both Catholic and Methodist churches?  Presuming you have
> migrated away from Catholic towards Methodist, why not go "all the
> way"?   What do the Methodists think about your continuing to consider
> yourself Catholic, particularly if you are an elder there as John
> says?

I never intended to give a testimonial, but I guess I got myself into it,
so here goes.

My wife came from a Methodist tradition; I came from a Catholic tradition.
Both traditions were very strong; with her grandfather and uncle being
ministers, and my dad's twin brother a priest, my aunt a hermit; and three
of my mom's uncles priests.  My spiritual development was stronger than
hers when we got married, so she had no problem with us going to the
Catholic church.

We found two parishes in Houston where we could both grow.  As  my wife
grew, she became more in touch with her roots; asking herself why she was
just going to a Catholic church.  But, the parish we went to was extremely
good; and we still found ways to grow.

We moved, and in the new area, the potential within the Catholic church was
far less.  When we were married; we had two basis for looking at religion.
First, we had mutual respect for each other's traditions.  While I had
differences with the Methodist church; I also had a great deal of respect.
The theological differences were not in areas I consider critical: there
was strong agreement on faith/works; and it was a "saved once saved forever
church."  This was reflected by how well her grandfather and my uncle got
along.  Indeed, the faith traditions of our families were very similar.

The second basis was that the smallest and most important religious
community was the family.  While I consider being a member of an extended
church critical; it is not as critical as practicing religion together as a
family.  So, we agreed we would not have Mommy's faith and Daddy's faith,
we would have our faith.  Part of that was worshiping together as a family.

With the difficulties at the local Catholic church, Teri in particular felt
that we were not in a place that allowed our full spiritual growth.  So, we
explored other churches, and started going to two churches; one Methodist,
and one Catholic.

Then we moved to the Woodlands, and the local Catholic church was not in
good shape.  The pastor stated that he didn't like children.  People went
to church to "get their obligation in."  There were two significant signs
of this.  First, the Catholic church was identifiable in the parking lot
because most people backed in to facilitate a quick exit.  Second, the
quick exit was enhanced by leaving before church was over.  My wife, Teri's
experience of this was singing the last hymn with her face in the hymnal
because it was a new song to her, looking up after the hymn and finding
that we were alone.  The pack pews around us had cleared during the second
verse because it was no longer a sin to leave once the priest had processed
into the narthex.

The local Methodist churches were Baptist churches in disguise;
particularly the larger one.  So, we went to the Presbyterian church and
found a place were we could all serve and grow.  My wife joined the AIDs
care team; and I was involved in adult education.  I was encouraged to give
adult courses based on Catholic writers, such as Raymond Brown.  There was
little opportunity for either service or nurture at the local Catholic
church.  I was still a lector; but the inspiration was far less than at
earlier Catholic parishes where I could feel the enthusiasm of the
congregation.

At the same time I took a second year graduate course at the Catholic
seminary on Persian and Hellenistic Judaism.  The local priest wasn't much
interested; the local Presbyterian pastor wrote a letter of recommendation
to get me in the Catholic seminary class.

During that time; our own family grew in both the nurture and opportunity
to serve presented by the Presbyterian church.  It was near impossible to
obtain either from the Catholic church.

So, in short, I never really turned my back on the Catholic church.  I just
didn't rate going to the Catholic church above going to church with my
family.  I have theological differences with both churches.  The key factor
is the ability of my family to both serve and be nurtured.

I am very happy with the spiritual growth of us all.  My eldest daughter is
about to start he last year of seminary.  My younger daughter was youth
elder at our church and worked this summer leading the youth group at
another church.  My son, although its too soon to tell at 17, appears to be
firmly grounded in his faith. My two "adopted" daughters are also strong
and growing in their faith

Theology, scripture, and ethics are frequent conversation topics in our
house.  I'm happy with this small church congregation that I belong to.
So, I never turned my back on the Catholic church.  I'm just following
where the Spirit seems to lead me.  If she leads me back to being most
active in a Catholic parish, that's fine.

Dan M


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