> -----Original Message----- > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On > Behalf Of Bryon Daly > Sent: Thursday, February 19, 2004 08:22 PM > To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > Subject: RE: Well, that thread wandered from where I thought > it would (RE: BRin-L-arewe average?...) > > > > > >What it really boils down to, in the end, is that in one > mode, I don't > >"fit" and in another, I do. Its > >about societal pressures, about role models, about relationships and > >interactions and perceptions and spirit and energy.. and > doesn't lend > >itself well to explanation (as is evidenced by the reams of > "Men are from > >Mars, Women are from Venus" type books, humor, and themes > through the ages) > > Since I find this fascinating and you volunteered to answer > questions, I > have some for you (though please don't feel obligated to > answer all or any of them if I'm bothering you)...
What, talk about myself? Sure.. :) (as a side note, I just got back from New England. My maternal grandmother, last of that generation on either side of my family passed away weds night/thursday morning. Not much to say, really - she was in a nursing home, suffering from mid-term alzheimer's, and I was never close to my mother's side of the family anyways, so... yeah, anyway, that's why I didn't answer before) > Have you tried this before? If you haven't, how do you know > you will fit > better by switching? Do you expect/intend the switch to be a > (semi-)permanent/long term one, or do you see this as an experiment? Yes, I have. up until shortly before I moved to seattle I was moving in this direction, but a pair of events occured that made me want to take personal stock - is this /really/ what I want? I mean, let's be honest - this sucks.. it really, really sucks. The old addage "wouldn't wish that on my most bitter enemy" is true. Don't try this at home. > When did you first realize you felt this way? Does your > family know? Are they supportive? How about your workplace? As early as 7 or 8, definately-but-supressing by 12-13, and honestly-with-myself by the time I was 20. My family doesn't really know, but in 2 weeks I head back to see them and plan on talking to my mother then. They've always known I'm "not quite there" but I suspect that they think I'm gay. I need to make quite clear to them that, well, yes I am, but not quite the way they think. I do honestly expect them to continue to love me and be supportive and proud of me in general, but it will strain our relationship, to be sure. Workplace is generally accepting, although its a much slower process to speak to people in the right order. :) > > > And I KNOW that I'd never start wearing high heels. : ) > > > >Me either - I'm the jeans-n-tshirt "comfortable sneakers" type ;) > > So will you mostly be dressing the same? What changes will > switching entail for you? Much of it is an internal shift, which has effects on how I react to events, people, the relationships I form. Mostly it involves my removing the half-second delay in every response, while I try to figure out what the "right" thing to do or say is . I take no small comfort in the fact that people who've known me the longest tell me I'm the happiest, most secure, and most at peace they've ever known me to be.. so I guess that's something :) > I guess you will adopt a female name? Yes. I was originally christened with a girls name as a child; my father was QUITE convinced I was going to be a girl, and so when the nurse handed his a squalling gurgling bundle of "joy" without any comment as to the gender, he christened me "kerry natashya elizabeth anne". Mom quickly corrected him, but the story has been kicked around the family enough that cousins would occasionally taunt me as a child by calling me by one of those names. Uhmm.. so yeah, at some point in the next few days, I'll be resubbing and shifting names and prnouns on my mailing lists. Official name change activites happen this summer, as long as the Seattle courts stay nice and liberal about these things ^_^ > I'd say "I wish you luck", but that seems a bit inapplicable > under the > circumstances, so maybe "I hope it all works out for you" is better. > Anyway, I hope it all works out for you! Thanks Bryon - that means more than you might imagine :) _______________________________________________ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
