> -----Original Message----- > From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] > [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of David Hobby > Sent: Wednesday, February 18, 2004 08:10 PM > > > (If you have any questions, comments, concerns, whatever, > just ask and > > I'll be happy to answer as best I can. I actively like talking about > > this stuff, if only because I get to talk about myself ^_^) > ... > O.K., I've got to ask. Why does it matter that much what > gender your BODY is, or what gender others perceive you as being?
What it really boils down to, in the end, is that in one mode, I don't "fit" and in another, I do. Its about societal pressures, about role models, about relationships and interactions and perceptions and spirit and energy.. and doesn't lend itself well to explanation (as is evidenced by the reams of "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" type books, humor, and themes through the ages) > Years ago when we lived in Berkeley, we had a friend > "Carol", who was technically still a "Charles". We've since lost > touch, but I still wonder, "Why bother with the hormones, what's > the point?" It sounded as if it was about body-image, or something. > She liked women, not men, so she was working on becoming a lesbian. > It didn't seem to be a matter of homosexuality at all. Nope, not one bit. I'm attracted to and form lasting relationships with women, find women far more attractive then men (typically), and have always identified with the Lesbian community. > Please forgive me if you don't like the question. I'm > certainly not trying to belittle anyone's choices. But I really > don't understand. Nope, not at all. I kind of figure that in some ways, I have a responsibility to answer any/all questions. I don't mind, honest :) If you want to ask something in private, feel free to email me offlist. > I imagine that if I were in a female body, I'd slowly > grow to like men more, although I'm not sure how far my habits > would change. That is sometimes the case with trans-people, that they end up being attracted to members of their former gender/sex, but its not a universal. > And I'd eventually quit trying to put my hand > on a beard that wasn't there, and so on. Not to mention other things that may or may not be there! ;) ..but seriously, most people do tend to think of surgery as the big bug-a-boo; most of my friends have been slightly squicked by the whole thing until they understood that no, this has nothing to do with somehow hating my plumbing, or wanting a different set of bits down there, and has everything to do with being free to be myself. > And I KNOW that I'd never start wearing high heels. : ) Me either - I'm the jeans-n-tshirt "comfortable sneakers" type ;) _______________________________________________ http://www.mccmedia.com/mailman/listinfo/brin-l
