Russell Chapman wrote:
>
> Julia Thompson wrote:
>
> >Just thought of a scenario not handled by this:
> >
> >Woman & man marry
> >Woman & man have baby
> >Woman & man get divorced
> >Woman gets custody
> >Woman marries another man
> >Woman is killed in an accident when child is 6 years old
> >
> >Who gets primary custody at *this* point? The bio-dad or the step-dad?
> >
> This is something that keeps me awake at night... My ex-wife is a
> fruit-loop who has no concept of responsibility at any level, and can't
> cope with the children for more than an overnight visit every few
> months. My second wife, despite having been thrown in the deep end with
> no preparation and all the challenges that step-parents face, is a
> wonderful mother who would do (and does) anything and everything for the
> children.
> My custody of the children is just a casual agreement between us, there
> is no court order.
> If something happenned to me, the default position of the authorities
> would be to return the children to their natural mother, and her family
> would want that to happen (my family would not!). I have a clause in my
> will that basically begs the authorities to leave the children with
> their step mother, which they may take note of, but that is as much as I
> can do. Obviously, as the children get older the risk is less and less,
> but when they were 6 it was a real concern about which I had no control.
> (they're 10 & 13 now).
Is there some age at which children of divorced parents can have a say
in where they live?
Various states in the US have that, and the age varies from state to
state. It's 14 *somewhere*. Don't know anything beyond that.
Julia
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