June 7, 2004
10:30 am
 
Dear Jeff:
 
You just never know who you'll run into on that internet highway!  I hope I gave you part of the information you wanted. 
 
Yes, they let my sister out sometimes, but she does pick her nose, so we don't take her in public too much!!!  Humor, laugh, humor!  I'll make sure she gets your e-mail-she'd probably pay big money to hear those things said about her age.  Yes, I believe she is working on a tribute CD to Daddy.  Poor baby, she's been trying to pole vault, sackrace, backwards run, & sneak her way into the music business for nearly 20 years now.  Off and on she's performed, run out of money to go forward with her music, worked to save up again, performed until she ran out of money again, then worked some more until I think now she's got enough scraped together to finally put out a record-the tribute CD.  Whatever money she got from "O'Brother" she's used to get her career off the ground.
 
When she first started, I bought satin, sequins, etc., & had her 3 stage dress costumes made (I mostly raised her you know).  Then after I heard her sing, I asked her for my money back!  HOWEVER-I heard a recording of "Little Bessie" she'd given my daughter--a demo tape, I think----at Christmastime and I said, oh, heck, she could keep the dresses now.  She said "thanks, now that I'm too fat to wear the things, you say I can finally keep them!"  It's amazing how much a person can improve in 11 years with the right instruments, tutors & money to pay voice coaches---it was there all the time, she just had a heck of a hard time finding the right singing voice.  I told her she was "looking for her voice in all the wrong places!".  She has a good husband now, is remarried and his encouragement and support have put her on the right course.  She had it really tough for a while & lived with my hubby & I in Gainesville, Florida during her nasty divorce from husband #1.  She's gonna make us all proud one day, I think.
 
As I said, Jeff, Jeannie Beannie would LOVE to get your e-mail-I'll have to forward it to her.  She AIN'T UNDER 40, but sisters is blood, & besides she's bigger than I am, so you'll have to find out how old she is on your own.  I'd love to help you--but as I said, she's bigger & prettier than me & I do love life.  She was 4 years old when Daddy died.  She remembers only a few scattered memories--like running away from home when we tried to wean her from the bottle at age 3 during Daddy's next-to-last summer of life.  Daddy & I were sort of "raising her together when he was home".  Daddy said, "Come on Sis, this is the little sister you begged for so hard, and you & Daddy, we'll raise her up to be a lady & when you have a baby of your own, you'll be glad you learned all this now, just help Daddy teach your little sister".  Mama had her hands full with 5 kids & when Daddy was home, he was an attentive, nurturing, wonderful father & took responsibility for most of the parenting since Mama was a single parent while he was away which was a lot of the time.  He figured Mama did her share while he was gone doing it on her own & he should take over most of the parenting when he could.  Jeannie wouldn't give up her bottle-fought us like a tiger & still had it when she was 3 years old.  So, that summer, Daddy & I were afraid it'd make her teeth protrude in front & we took it away from her.  We told her we'd given ALL HER BOTTLES to a new little baby who lived up the street who'd been recently born to a family friend of ours because the new baby didn't have ANY bottles & she needed Jeannie Beannie's bottles so she could grow & eat.  My sister gets her way & she wasn't ABOUT to GIVE UP HER BOTTLE.  The first 3 or 4 times we turned our backs, Jeannie streaked out the door & took off up the street to the Johnson's home which was 3-4 blocks away.  When the Johnsons phoned to tell us that she'd run away to their house, we were all frantic & searching the world for her & she got into BIG trouble.  Always able to talk her way out of a jam, even then, she refused to get punished because "well, Daddy, you gave all my bottles to Bonnie Lynn & I needed to go get my bottles, now.  I need my bottles but I don't need a spanking." 
 
 Jeannie  remembers taking naps with Daddy----who by the time she was 3 & 4 years old was pretty sick & slept every moment he could, God rest him---and she remembers laying there waiting craftily to "get Daddy sleepy night night", sneaking off the bed after he'd fallen asleep & hauling buggy out the door to play with something she wasn't supposed to be playing with!  But she has so very previous few memories of him.  We all have only a few, but she has less than any of the 5 of us.
 
People help out with cemetery maintenance, I've had 2-3 flags made & put up there, others have given flags, and we pay for the rest.  Ralph has it done sometimes & Daddy's estate helps out as far as I know.  All the exhumation work to put Mama & Daddy together just my brothers & sister & I paid for.  I wish I could answer your question, but I don't know if the cemetery is used during the rest of the year for anything.  People visit all through the year, though, so we have to make it nice for people who loved Daddy &  Ralph & want to pay their respects.  Mama & Daddy are buried right where Daddy chose his spot, we just carried out his wishes and put him exactly where he wanted to be & wanted all of us to be later on.  He was buried underground for 24 years, but when Mama died we had him lifted up & both of them put together into the above-ground mausoleum where they are now.  I'd been the one who came home to take care of Mama those last 4 horrible months while cancer destroyed her body, mind, & made us all want her to go home to Daddy where they'd be together after so long apart and neither one would suffer or hurt anymore.  So I picked out the little house they live in & chose the guitar & little white dove carved into the stones.  I remember when Ralph & Jimmie & I went to see it, Ralph said to me "Better get yours now, Sis, you can stack these boxes one on top of the other one, & Maw goes on Carter's right side, then me, & then Jimmie goes on my other side.  We all love to be surrounded by our women, you know.  You'll have to put yours on top of your Daddy & Mother's so you're right here with them.  They cost, but me & Jimmy are getting ours & Maw's coming in with us, too.  We'll all just have to stack 'em so we can be here together."
 
I don't know whether we suggested the "White Dove" speaker sound system playing their music or not.  I can't recall to tell you truthfully.  I don't THINK it plays all year, but can't answer that either.  I know it does play during the Memorial Festival & I think we paid for it but can't be certain on that.  Daddy's estate maintains things there & then each of us do the flowers, etc.  I want to go a few things there to add to what's there, and will when the money's available.  We should have more places for people to sit down and think there-it's the best place in the world to think, you know.  The flag should always have Daddy's favorite symbol---The White Dove.  The wind wears flags out pretty quick so I can't keep them up there, but hope to do better on that in the future.  James Shelton who plays in The Clinch Mountain Boys knows details on things like that, or Ralph, & if I find out I'll make it a point to answer your query the second I know.
 
Thank you Jeff, for your kind words.  Thank you for caring about mountain music, thank you for the information you provide to people on this site, thank you for supporting Stanley music and your loyalty to the music that's the best in the world.  People just like you made the Stanley Brothers what they are & were & you continue to be largely responsible for their success.  If I can tell you anything else, I'd love to share memories of  Daddy with you.  They are one of the only things we have left of him now.  Except my grandson, Samuel who started singing "Jesus Loves Me" at age 14 months and hasn't stopped singing since & my 6-year old granddaughter who is a natural stage performer & grabs a microphone & gets in front of a camera everywhere she goes & every chance she gets.  I don't think we'll be able to keep Shayla off the stage in the future, she takes dancing, ballet, tap, acrobats, etc & I think she wants to start music soon.  Baby Sammy is happiest when he's singing-he never stops. 
 
They are Mother & Daddy's only 2 great-grandchildren so far & their immortality.  Mother never saw a great grandchild.  Daddy never even saw one of his grandchildren.  They would cherish these 2 little imps my daughter has given us all.
 
I hope one day to meet you & thank you in person for being such a loyal fan.  Keep loving mountain  music-it's just the best.
 
Cordially,
 
 
 
Doris Stanley Bradley.
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Monday, June 07, 2004 8:21 AM
Subject: Re: BG: Re: Ralph's Father's Grave

Dear Doris,
 
    Thank you very much for your response to my question about why Carter and Ralph's father isn't buried in the Stanley cemetery.  I was very surprised and honored to get a reply from Carter's daughter!
 
    Your sister performed during Ralph's afternoon set at the Memorial Festival on Saturday, May 29.  Ralph said that she's working on a Carter Stanley tribute CD.  Does your sister have any memories of your father?  She appears young (under 40), so I assume she was a baby and perhaps not even born when your father died.
 
    You and your siblings chose a very appropriate final resting place for your parents.  Was it your idea to have tapes of Carter's music playing at the tombs?  Do the tapes play year-round, or only during the Memorial Festival?
 
    My question about the cost of maintaining the Hills of Home Park referred more to the park itself than to the cemetery.  I just thought it would be expensive to keep the lawn mowed, buildings maintained, electricity and water running, etc., for a park that is only used three days per year.  Is the campground used throughout the year?
 
    Again, thank you, Doris, for your detailed reply to my question about your grandfather's grave.
 
Sincerely,
 
Jeff Root
Fairfax, Virginia

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